My In-Laws Have No Boundaries!

What do you do when your in-laws move within a few miles of you? Absolutely ZERO boundaries. Was continually needing to go out to eat every week, coming over to get mail everyday. They finally got their own mailbox and we don’t go out to eat every week. But even once a month is far to much when I still see them at least once a week, even for only a few minutes. They still want to get together and now I am the bad guy in the relationship because I want to be left alone.

When I told my husband I didn't want to spend our Christmas at any grandparents of our kids when I was 6 months pregnant with our third child, HE got very dissapointed in me.
Because I wanted some familytime with OUR family.

Sometimes husbands and wives aren't perfect like these therapists with their perfect families and boundries.... Sometimes it is for better or worse.

For now, I want to see and feel the better-part now. With inlaws that act like 4 year-olds when something doesn't work out the way they planned (and not discussed it), it is difficult.

I hope my husband will become more like a lion protecting me and our kids.

They’re a funny duo 😂

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A lot of the commenters assume the parents want to live with them. I think the caller said the parents want to live near them. Big difference. One would think the parents would have established lives where they currently live and not want to move where they would know no one except the kids.

Her husband should choose his wife because he needs to hear from his wife

Lmbo sorry. 😂😂😂😂😂😢😢😢😢❤

I think comedians should be sure to watch this. You can't go wr😂😂😂😂😂😂

Thank you 😭 miserable in house owned by in-laws

My in laws are extremely toxic as well. They seem to somehow be involved in every major decision we want to make in our child or our lives. My wife tries to set some boundaries which often goes ignored.

Ive come to learn that they will never change so the best thing to do is just try to keep my distance from them as best as possible.

Dave is 1000% right! Surprised the "dr" beat around instead of saying move out. Was disappointed in him. Not taking advise from him.

Women are forced to live with or close to inlaws in our culture. I am personally experiencing a ridiculous amount of emotional blackmailing from my inlaws. My father inlaw chooses not to take his wife with him when he divides his time between two cities and leaves it to us to keep her sane. She is an emotional wreck and wants to make up for her bad marriage by being literally married to her son. I took a stand and moved out with my husband. Now my father in law wants to move her back into our neighbourhood so she can practically live with us. They keep asking us about making babies, borrow money for their stupid investmnets that never became profitable, cause fights between me and my husband and act all concerned after causing all this mess.
Sadly, men end up getting manipulated in all of this and a "good son" in my culture is a person who neglects his wife to serve parents. Parents are considered gods here.
White people have the option to move out as soon as they are grown and they should take that option. Your wife should never feel like she is second to ur family. Parents should plan their life in a way that they are not a burden to their kids before they are even old enough to need assistance.

I hate when mine visit for more than a week lord

Dont ever stay or stay in a house inlaws own eso the ines who are narasstic they will control freaks heck my exinlaw father is evil pieace of work he has tred to run me off from my sons house he had the nerve too to rrun my sons girlfriend off hat he loves dearly i think the evil ex father inlaw could have dementia he has threathed my life that is very evil just remember even if they are exlaws watch your back we are in spiritual attack from those fcked up narasstic ppl

The anger and resentment will continue to grow!

Just maybe in a somewhat akward way MIL is trying to help and bond with the new mom? Maybe MIL has her own memories about how rough it is to know what to do with a baby and be "overwhelmed" and unable to heal, tend the infant AND keep house. Just maybe DIL is too sensitive and has no negotiating skills? New moms can be momzillas, and overly sensitive, for sure, and MIL can be unintentionally overbearing,

If a man doesn't already own a house or have enough money to buy a house, he is not ready to be married

My parents are constantly trying to meddle and control my husband and I and what they permit in their house. Even threatening us with the police, mocking us, insulting us, and even denying us for over a year to bathe. We are fed up being with them. We are leaving and never living with them again. You don’t need a quack. Move out.

What about if is in a ADU within the same property, is that okay?

When you live in your in-laws home their rules apply. You want boundaries move.

Live 5 miles from daughter and son in law with 3 grand kids. We give them space to raise their family. We are non evasive in laws.

I love my parents and in laws but I cannot live with them I enjoy my space but if they ever get sick or I be one of the first ones to help them out even stay over night if needed but won’t live there I need my space I like to go out and do what I please without having a babysitter watching over me

Since I am married and before that I know my in-laws now since 3 years who live in Pakistan.Often they act like it is a obligation to call them.I can not talk to them like every third day and I do not want.2 months I do not talk to them they act like is a big deal.Or my sister-in-law felt hurt when I had exams and she guilt tripped me that I do not love her and them.I do not want to defend myself,I have more important things to do in my life and day.They send me videos,photos and messages via WhatsApp and I feel pressurized - also I regard this as superficial.This talks is just passing time idly away ...

Sorry, but "back in the day" a couple did not get married unless and until they could support themselves without living with mommy and daddy. You need to be out of school with job(s) that can support your lives before you get married, and certainly before you think about having children. Otherwise, you're not adults. Common sense.

Does this apply to siblings 🤔? When siblings are way too close sometimes doubt whose the gf , me or the siblings..I wish you could give an example..help i need advice so bad

People shouldn't get married if they cannot afford to live away from their parents. Leave and cleave.

I have one rule about my in laws. My husband deals with everything related to his family and I am not to intervene or talk to them in any way. I do the same with my family.

When I dated my husband, his mom made a negative comment towards me. I smiled and never said a word to them. I did talk to my bf (now husband) that his mother can choose his next gf. He talked to her that same night. They never said a bad thing about me ever again.

Annnnd there can only be one queen in a beehive. It is the caller's fault for living with her in laws.

Coming fro a guy that has lived this I say keep one’s business to themselves and the ones that’s need to know like your wife. My parents think they have to be involved in everything and I mean literally everything, so it’s to the point I don’t say anything unless I want too and when they set their minds on that I HAVE to do it their way even when I don’t ask them, I always ask them to fork out the money and I will do it their way and they change their minds. Yes I have set boundaries and they don’t respect them so telling them to pay for it works to get them to back off and leave me alone. I will say this, some not all but some parents don’t wanna see their kids fail, however on the other side of that ball some are just controlling and need to learn to let go.

she sounds 62 not 22

Try having your in-laws live with you and you pay for everything for 10 years and not only that compete with her dad who waits on the wife hand and foot. It’s enough to drive a man insane.

My married 23 year old folks lived with his parents. My dad's mom tried to kill me before I was born by trying to push my mom down the stairs. She escaped to a neighbor's house and they moved out that night. They didn't have any contact for 2 years, then my grandmother was killed when she was crossing the street. Better to live under a bridge than live with family.

Story needs an update...this was 3 years ago...are they still living on the property?
Did she and her husband actually talked to the inlaws?

“A man shall LEAVE his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (ESV) (Genesis 2:24). Married couples run into trouble if they fail to leave their fathers and mothers.

My mother was controlling so I made a point of NOT being so. I have interfered only once when I found my middle son's girlfriend was cheating on him. Never again. I purposely moved far from all my kids when I retired and don't say anything concerning their lives. It's their life.

Mothers have a sense of entitlement over their children, specially sons. I can see it with my own mother and how she treats her DIL.

Most mothers can’t accept that their sons have a new queen. That they’re no longer queen of their sons lives. You can’t have two queens in one household. It’s like a bomb sitting close to another bomb. I would never want to live with my in-laws, not even in my dream.

I believe it's not your job to keep your parents happy

The term, “In Laws,” doesn’t always apply to your spouses relative, as it comes in various forms. What’s worse is when you have someone who thinks that they deserve this term, without Common Law or credence. Nosy, intrusive & out of line. Just because you slip into the bed with a “blood relation,” doesn’t give you the uninvited right to slip into my DM’s or personal private business. Know you place in someone’s life to not overplay your role. Stupid choices lead to bad consequences. That lesson is not immune to anyone. Just know your place.

Security guards make peanuts, he needs to step outside the law enforcement idea and make some money.

This is why I never moved into my in-laws rental. I remember my in-laws who were not my in-laws yet telling me I could give them my inheritance to hold, live in their home and save more money for a home. 😂😂😂😂 It was so laughable, that is when I knew they were controlling. There is no way I'd ever ask an adult to give me their money so I could manage for them. It's ridiculous.

No. He is allowing this because his wife is not bringing home an income! If she did, you better believe he would change his tune.
Ladies, this is why you have no business getting married until AFTER you've started paying your own mortgage with your own career money

My problem is a little bit different. Unfortunately my child married a mama's boy. The problem is she's become very close to the mother-in-law which would normally be okay except it's been to the detriment of her and my relationship and when I go to talk to her about it she just brushes me off. But the in-laws have completely taken over every aspect of their life. They have given her a job and given them a home (not the title to the home so they don't own the home, the in-laws do) to live in as partial payment for the job. They still have an alarm on the door from when it was a treatment home so they get a notification on their phone whenever my daughter and her husband open the door. They tell them how to discipline their kids they've completely taken over EVERY aspect of their life. They even lived with them after her first child was born. They have easy access to the grandchildren because they always choose them first over us. And my daughter doesn't see it. I was a fantastic parent to my daughter and we were very close, now she acts like I'm an annoying fly and she puts them before me. I'm not jealous I'm just sad.

The movie, How Green was My Valley, had a line in it where the Father said his rule was "one house, one woman". Mother should know where her house ends and Bride's house starts, the same for Bridegroom. He should spend two times more waking hours in Bride's house then at other peoples' houses, (including his parent's).

My in-laws were visiting and I needed to pay bills. My fil tried to stand over me and ask questions about the bills. I quit and locked myself away to finish. He would always ask what we paid for things. My husband would tell him it was enough. He would tell us about siblings finances. We told him it was none of our business. So glad we lived ten hours away.😮

I was that young bride that had to put up with an overbearing MIL. It never got better until she died. I didn't leave, for various reasons. I had to sit down with God and ask him to show me how to keep my own dignity in a dysfuctional home. In a slightly different circumstance, maybe we could have moved, but it wasn't right. I wasn't willing to leave.

I already informed my sons (11 and 8) that they and their wives will NEVER move into the basement. Never. I value my relationships with my future DILs too much. I learned the hard way as a young bride.

Hi. I think it’s important to look at other news outlets because the main outlets leave a lot of information out to control the narrative. I voted for the economy, the border and to maintain my freedoms. Canceling people for opposing views is not freedom.

WE set boundaries and enforce them through clear communication.

Hate to say it but Mr. Ramsey is still too clingy with his children. They may just want an at-home weekend to depressurize.

Move out then!

I hate the sound of John Delony.

He sucks.

Charlatan.