Why You Can’t Connect With Anyone

This was a great made up story. Can't wait to fall through the pages when I'm at work or never being invited anywhere .

1) Everyone else is the problem.
2) There is... wiggle room in there to explore.
3) Everyone else is the problem... don't change just because everyone else is terrible.
4) There is... wiggle room in there to explore.

I think real connections just happen. Working at it is usually counterproductive. Why, 🤷‍♀️

No its like if something i say its stupid but if other person say that its funny 😢and i feel like i fit no where with no one like if we talked for sometime still other person matters more than me like if i am the last option of a friend😓

I've never felt connected to anyone. I spent most of my life totally cutoff from people and the outside world . I have a brain injury so I only feel at the most a flat mood , better than where I was long ago , then only the worst mood . I do have a couple frie ds but rarely see them . I enjoy being alone . Other than going to a store which is uncomfortable I not really interested in meeting people . I doubt anyone would want to be around me anyway.

I be like i can be a problem sometimes but some folks dont know shoe i got to fit in i went through the hard knock in life and i want be better individual but the hardest part is doing it first and also when people mess and treat me like i not a Human being and that effects me so much in life and be like what really the point of being with people being in society and also just living in general.

Sometimes it is a numbers game. When you meet 10 people, maybe you will connect with 1 or 2 if you are lucky. How many people have you met and how many of them are your friends? I think everybody has this problem.

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Great video, thank you for this production!

Thanks❤ love from India🇮🇳

Thank you, very useful. Can I network with you?

I'm literally the guy with the green t-shirt and my friends are the other dude who left 😂😢

One of the most amazing videos I’ve ever watched. You touched my soul with this video❤

But i do not find anything to say😢

Tbh you don’t really need friends either there just like a gf in some cases your real friends are going to accept u for who u are so focus on yourself and you’ll gain friends along the way

Eyy, basically the message of Jesus. Love your neighbor as yourself.

This makes a lot of sense!

I find it hard to connect with people but is not doing any of the 2 things

Good opening question

I’m actually not boring have a lot of hobbies , I think I scare people or I don’t look trust worthy maybe , I see people everyday who have less cool things going on . I think society only cares about delusions or being someone who helps you get somewhere most ppl are simply trying to get to know you because you’re a cool person or attracted to them . people normally throw me off after a while , plus I may be weird cus I can’t just chill with ppl if we don’t have things in common .I like being around guys that can help my either get more woman or turn up with . if they just wanna chill , it’s cooler when I was younger now I have a lot to do . plus ppl don’t be having no moves everyone looking at me . plus you need money to do a lot of stuff and be in these places , all the extra stuff he saying is irrelevant

Thank you

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I would start laughing if i was the other guy.

I connect with you by watching your videos

I possess good social skills, but sometimes I forget to utilize them. This can be quite frustrating and can lead to both laughter and tears.

sorry, this doesnt work... tried this for a couple years. people just seem to give me the cold shoulder or not interested in talking to me at all. It seems i can only have made good friends with international students, but since i am no longer a student, i no longer have friends. I am a positive person, try my best to improve while at the same time accepting who i am now. I try not to have limiting beliefs. I try to talk with people and be inviting to do other things. nothing is reciprocated, EVER

This video helped me a lot on altering my perspective, however there is one more aspect I think makes me half disagree. Looking inward and becoming your best self is always the best choice. But sometimes many many people find themselves in situations where they wonder if they are the problem instead of facing the reality of their environment. I personally think in today’s world many people out there ARE the actual problem, because they’ve gone too far down a spiral they cannot control. It’s important to give credit to yourself where it’s due if you know you always give more effort towards others than you receive….and it gets tiring after a while.

I concur with certain observations made here; undoubtedly, society tends to assess individuals based on their perceived 'class' and whether they belong to the middle or upper class, or possess specific material possessions. While I can empathize with this perspective to some extent, I was struck by the opening of the video, where the lack of desire for deep connections was palpable, and I find it perplexing. It seems as though society has become increasingly self-centered, prioritizing personal attention over genuine connections. It's disheartening to witness this shift towards a more selfish culture.

Self improvement ❌ Self discovery ✅

I relate to the second reason and for me it id due to my childhood emotional neglect. I am not comfortable with vulnerability, emotions, intimicy 🤦🏼‍♂️😮‍💨

Your true self could be Sigma !

I think people will ask you what you do etc then they seem to decide if you're useful to them or not.
I've rarely had people want to be my friend just because.

What if I'm the villain? What if I like being the villain? Am I destined to be alone?

I didnt know how much I needed to hear this til I heard it. Real wake up call for me
I need more help

"Except those flaws within yourself " - I don't smoke🙃

You could just be around the wrong people.

I always had trouble connecting with people, from childhood till this day, I always had people who are actively trying to be friends with me, to involve me in group activities and what not, I think they find me interesting, like I hold some special secrets, even though I'm pretty transparent with my ideas, maybe its how I carry myself, I don't really know, the point is that despite all that, I still couldn't ever connect with anyone.

Maybe I have some trauma that I'm not aware of, even though I don't have the slightest idea what it could be, to me it just feels like a chore, a task that I would rather not spend time and energy on if I have the choice, I don't feel "anxious" per se, more like bothered, like I would have a much better time alone.

I lived that way for most of my life, and it had led me to a pretty bad place, luckily I got out of it, but it would be more accurate to say that I ran away from it, it's still there, I just managed to outrun it for now, but I know it will catch up eventually, unless I change, but I don't have the slightest clue where to start, or what even is my goal.

I have friends, and an environment where I'm always surrounded by them, but that's temporary, and I can't see myself connecting with any of them, I'm not even sure I know how it feels like, all of my "close" friends are people who are just more active in seeking my company than others.

I guess I'm writing this as a question, what's the basis to form a connection? Is it shared interests? Time spent together? Humor? I share all of those with my close friends, but I still can't bring myself to feel anything more than just "I'd rather spend time with them than with someone else."

Thanks man ❤
I recently became more and more social. Soon I will be 17 and I want to change my life for the better. I started talking to my classmates and people and I'm having a great time. Don't think I don't experience fear sometimes, haha ​​it's still there but I'm pushing through it.

I found out that I actually love talking to people and listening to their thoughts, slowly I understand and accept to show myself to them. Understanding the importance of expressing positive emotions and paying attention to body language helps me a lot.

I had a not so good time, at 15 I tried suicide. But it's okay now, for anyone reading this my message is to never give up. Allow yourself to develop, allow yourself to create moments for yourself and others. You got this!

Wow, I feel dissected😂

You just described my life.

I think I have trouble connecting with people because during my childhood my only playmate was my younger sister and during my teenage years my only friends were the TV, the radio and my cassette tape recorder. I didn't have any hobbies and was super shy

I dont know. I kinda think when you learn about peoples darkness, which is really their animalistic nature no different from other animals, the key is not to try to unsee it. Rather, it is to kind of allow it but put up some boundaries. This need to connect on a deeper level can be something many people shy away from because they dont want to look too deeply and see the darkness. It can be a challenge, but ultimately, you cannot subsume another person. We will always be extremely unique on a deeper level. That truth and its acceptance is healing. We all all ultimately separate and that is not a problem. Learn to fill the void with a connection to God. Ive heard that if you look into the darkness long enough, you see the light. Because you accept the darkness and the light becomes the notable part.

I don’t fit in anywhere. I’m not cool enough for well cool people. Not nice enough for good people. Not dumb enough for stupid people, not smart enough for intelligent people. Not boring enough for boring people. I am not capable of connecting with people and I know I am the problem, I push people away I put on fake personalities I try to be liked and I whine and complain when I’m not, I’m lazy, I’m pathetic and I could never love someone more than I love myself because I can’t push my own problems away for the people I care about. I know sometime, somewhere, I will feel different, I will think these emotions were dumb, superficial and pathetic. Regardless I still feel them, they still hurt, I don’t have faith, I don’t have knowledge. I don’t have wisdom. I contribute nothing to those who push and strive to be better despite trying to help. I use people and I don’t even notice it, I’m flawed. I have no ambitions. I can’t trust people. I am nothing. And yet I am something. But I don’t want to be anything. I want to be okay, I want someone to hold me tight and just listen to me for once like I have done all of my life, to listen and really understand. And then let me help them, let me be honest with them, let me be open with them, to give myself and my entirety to them and they in return all I would want is for them to be happy. To be happy with me, to enjoy being around me and genuinely want my love, my compassion, my flaws. Whether it be a friend, girlfriend, wife, brother, sister. All I want is to be needed and push my self to be better for them. For them.

the background music's too loud

you have 7k followers i cant relate to you at all.

Why can't we just be friends and sit in silence doing something we like or whatever

What if i have gone through something i feel like nobody has gone through

Hard to connect with mouth breathers.