The Myth of the Alpha Male | Steve Mayeda | Full Length HD

This is a phenomenal speech, one that every man that is searching for the answer to his women's problem should listen to. It is not about lines or tricks or gambits or faking it, it is about owning one's identity, purpose and personality in order to develop into the most complete men we can be. It is about following a more natural way of being social and sexual. It is about putting all the superficial stuff away and separating our sense of worth (or how we measure our success) depending on the outcome we get when we have a social interaction. As he mentions, we are born to be social, we are born to be happy, why would it be any other way? Society has given us all these rules and told us how to live our lives and we follow them, but in reality, how happy are we because of them? There was one part that got me to think, where Steve compares how we are as children (we are social and when put in any environment we interact with other kids or people) to how we are as adults (mellow, we keep to each other, socializing regularly with anyone and everyone is not the norm anymore as when we were kids) and I have to say, he knows what he is talking about.

This is good and something it's taken a slow time to learn on my own. I move around quite a bit and life is always changing, and anchoring your identity on a single characterization of the moment will fuck you up. You have to have a solid identity over the longer period of time.

For example, i lifted weights a lot. I was the guy that lifted. But then I had sciatic trouble, no more lifting. Who was I? I climbed a lot of mountains (every weekend), but then i left Korea...no mountains now.

You gotta figure out who the core guy is, and know that he is the guy that does all these things, but is not tied to the actions for his identity. This can mess a lot of guys up. Good to hear it spoken.

Great Speech! You continue to positively amaze me when you talk about express, exchange and connection... it was something so far from my old shy thinking.
Thank's for your message and for sharing your story with us... it really helped me a lot and continue to help.

Really insightful talk, thanks for that! Human behavior really only makes sense if you look at it through the evolutionary and anthropological lense. Just as Steve explains, because we're hardwired to be social and to be sexual, being social and being sexual is actually not this big, complex thing we often make it to be in our culture, and especially in pickup. Once you stop trying to turn it into something it is not (a means to an end) and bring it back to its normal function (expression and exchange), a lot of it is almost instinctual. Personally, I'm not there yet. Having immersed myself pretty deeply into pickup, I'm still struggling to remain mindful of these simple facts and shed all the dysfunctional habits I picked up over the years (see what I did there? ;-) ). But I'm making progress, and that's all that counts.

This was a great talk. I consider myself advanced, and I don't watch many videos anymore I generally just give guys advice and do my own thing. But I'm glad I took the time to watch this, it really helped me understand why connecting with people makes me such a happier person.

Enjoyed it Steve!

Great speech! Someone had to step up and say it.
It's about time that this fake deity, this illusory "alpha male" gets challenged.

Great Speech!

awesome speech ! made me smile a couple times during that one .. Steve have an great "outside the box " view on this world

An amazing speech by the former El Topo. I watched this all in one sitting; very engaging.

Wonderfull! You changed my mind!

Socialist evolutionist brainwash, wariiors kings and leaders exsist within ourselves don't let your manhood get stolen guys wake up !!!

This is healthy way to understand social behavior... When I started learning seduction there was a lot of stuff talking about to be a man that doesn't are you. Understanding social and sexual urges as a part of our nature as human beings has been a very powerful meaning for me to start socializing in a comfortable way. Also, understanding our identity instead of copy the identity of others is the key to express ourselves and to exchange to the world. I think as a human beings we have a great power within us and we must learn how to be the best expression of this power to reach the happiness of us and the rest. Thanks Steve for your speech.

Interesteing what you are saying about the evolution of our behavio from a healthy behavior to a hostile behavior.... What changed? My guess is : demography and the social changes that accompagnied the scarcity of land. When ressources- and especially human ressources- are scarce, the world becomes harder and more combative, harder to navigate and crazy behaviors emerge... naturally.
When women and land were not scarce, everybody got laid/conquered land and was happy, except maybe the pathologically ugly poeple who died killed by an animal or whatever.... That is natural selection and the alpha male is in my mind the epitome of evolution, the top of the top in terms of genetics. For the same money, women select the fittest male because we live in a world of abundant technology and food, but scarcity of human ressources and money. Therefore evolution keeps going and the alpha male is not really a myth. Take a man who is 6 feet 3, strong build, Mensa-like IQ, symmetrical face, solid personality, educated and socially competent and ambitious,...Etc HOw the hell this guy is not sexually gifted? Intellect/ good personnality/ goodlooks... that's the cornerstone of alpha really. Dominance comes naturally when you have this, believe me. The speaker is a good proof of alpha-ness, good build/good personnality and reasonnably smart... this trio puts you in the top 1% of men already and you don't even know it lol.

so realistic .. love that speech

great video there is not such thing as the alpha male

when he brought up mystery that's what made me wanna keep watchn lol

woah.. he's arguing something insane
He needs some yoga.. or a biology class go dissect something but not me.. lol

but im insane too xD

move to the hood for no reason stay for 4 years and listen to nas..
then make another video

oh shit lol.. lemme find out he's the man

emotions

stop speaking proper english.. D,=
xD.. fuck i think im screwed

D,= =/
shrugs it sounds like he listened to a lot of brad branson

you can evolve more if you want

yeah he's still the man tho..
hmmm
that's wassup

When I was young, strong and handsome I said to my German girlfriend who was a goddess that I wanted more sex and morning and afternoon blow jobs or else I would dump her. I meant it and I got it and I told her that I was a really good boyfriend. I was good enough that I could demand DEMAND this and I never used the L word and we had a wonderful time together. Not all men are the same and not all men are Alpha and intelligent and not all men are good fighters. These lectures are for weak men - mangynas . Only a small number of men are real men and women can sense them from across the room. If being a real man is combined with intelligence and perception then the world is at your feet and women will give you whatever you want - especially feminists who are sick of what they claim to love.

This talk delves into the process of individuality and our inherent worthiness to build what we want outside of limitations; while most pickup creates false paradigms (the alpha male) and focuses on the lack and "weaknesses" to overcome. It's not about social stats and personas, it's about connections and energy. I always find the meekest guys with the best women. Dominance is taught as number one virtue in pickup when it's crafting the things you've always wanted and being the person you always were by shedding boundaries and creating good energy while having fun with principles/motives.

This is a 10 minute presentation stretched out to 60. Too much rambling. If you'd just think and act like the natural animal that you are, you will attract all the other human animals.

hey guys... that's my new dad.

1. We may not be living as we were 'meant' to be (as intended by nature), but we are changing our meaning to survive and thrive in our independent cultures. We are currently evolving and adapting to our cultures, because our survival is linked to it.
Each culture will evolve its population in a different direction.

2. The Alpha male was not only a part of our evolution, but a critical force driving it.

"All of our evolution never had this." What a load of crap. There are so many incorrect assertions this guy makes. I don't know how this guy is thinking, but it's clear that he either hasn't thought this through well enough, or that he's just explaining his actual concepts very poorly.

Anyway, here's a quick summary of some of the things we can know for sure, based on real-life-observations anyone can make:

1) The "pre-historic human" is basically the same as the "modern human", in terms of its level of evolutionary development.
Real-life-proof: You can experience for yourself that there are many traits you have that aren't caused by culture. (Some of them are mentioned below.) This fact of life wouldn't have been possible to occur at all if the "modern human" didn't share biological traits with the "pre-historic human" - because of the amount of time/years needed to make these traits into a biological/innate part of human nature.

2) Alpha-males exist as a biological (not cultural) part of human nature.
Real-life-proof: You can see for yourself that women are sexually attracted to alpha-males, and that people naturally follow/look up to alpha-males - which is because humans are herd-animals. These facts of life wouldn't have been possible to occur at all if the concept of "alpha-male" wasn't a biological/innate part of human nature.

3) Social pre-selection exists as a biological (not cultural) part of human nature. 
Real-life-proof: Both men and women have a positive bias towards socially pre-selected people. This fact of life wouldn't have been possible to occur at all if the concept of "social pre-selection" weren't a biological/innate part of human nature.

4) Monogamy & polygamy both exist as a biological (not cultural) part of human nature.
Real-life-proof: You can meet for yourself couples that live happily and fulfilled in monogamy throughout life (and you can immediately tell that they're truly happy and fulfilled when you see them interact with each other, even after many years of being together) - even though they also feel sexual attraction towards other people as well. This fact of life wouldn't have been possible to occur at all if the concept of "monogamy" wasn't a biological/innate part of human nature - or if the concept of "polygamy" wasn't a biological/innate part of human nature.

Is this a beta male conference.

there is nothing wrong. the story that something is wrong is the only thing that is wrong, because it is telling you something is wrong. disconnect yourself from the perpetual story of inner resistance and life flows naturally.

these social and sexual practices can help, but what is most fundamental is recognizing the internal contraction that prevents the natural free flow of expression within you and severing the link of this contraction which is compulsive thinking. the story of identity.

I'm sure some of this helped many of you guys..but after 20 min, all I got was a rambling bunch of nothing.

This should be a seminar for teenagers across the globe, the globe you hear me?!

Yes the famous paleo diet.
1)dress in a loincloth,
2) sleep in a tree at night.
3) when its safe clime out of said tree
4) grab you hunting stick and find some small animal to beat to death with it afterwards forage for berries and other leafy green eat enough not to fill full but hey whatever, and repeat.

I agree with the main assertions, as there is much research to back this up, but for some reason  he doesn't go into it. I was hoping for more. I would have been much more convinced if he had backed up his claims with some of the research that's out there. Only about 20 minutes of the hour long speech are of value, the rest is just off tangent ramblings.

Also, what is up with the PowerPoint sentences going off the side of the screen? You misspelled the word "discipline." Sorry, but that's just sloppy. Obviously, he didn't preview his presentation before giving it.

Spelled discipline wrong on culture slide. Like really really wrong, clearly not a typo.

A bunch of nothing. I think instead because culture is not natural, then we need to study our ancestors behavior and use those studies and books as superior man etc to find our true effortless nature again. Telling people in a speech that they are useless and pointless is the worst advice ever. Every man got to learn them and starting using them as an exercise until it become natural and effortless, because its true nature finally re discovered. Alpha male exists and is not a mith. Misleading speech.

"Disapline"? DISAPLINE??? Steve, thanks for coming in, have a seat. No, sorry, sorry, Steve, we don't have time to talk about that. I'm going to ask you - how do YOU think your talk went? Mmm. Mmmhm. I see. Right. Were you "fulfilled"? Yeah, well guess what, we weren't. Get the fuck out of here. Oh, and it's been shown that there's no evidence for free will, so there's no "free choice".

Seriously, good effort, though. Some interesting ideas.

Not convinced at all. Actually, only few times were mentioned "Alpha" and almost all the time I heard evolutionism crap. And by the way, not nature created man, but living God.

Take a psychology class most of this is 101

Fuck An alpha male or beta male ,I'm Me👈

You're intro is too long. You bore us

Most are living in a dream. Thoughts from the ego are meaningless as they go thru a filter of perception. When one allows thoughts to perturb ones consciousness then they are identified w them. It's unreal, an illusion. This causes suffering. Negativity is resistance and this causes suffering and pain. This pain isbuilt up from years of let down and emotional distress.

Watch your thoughts and feeling as an observing witness. Eventually you may detach from them and create space. You will than see the ego as it is, an illusion. Keeping you in lower level of consciousness, in hell potentially. This is way out of pain. The built up pain will disipate.
W women and game losing the ego is beneficial. Than you have no need to game. When you game a girl than you cause her to game you back. Enough manipulative BS. Direct, honest communication relaying your desires and intentions is best way. I learned "game" for quite a while. Once I got into meditation and letting go of my ego my results went thru the roof. I quit trying. You already have everything you need. There is no need to do anything else, other than dissolving pain and the egoic mind which naturally raises your level of consciousness.

Alpha males exist alright. They intimidate weak men with their presence and make women weak in the knees, croon, and swoon. He can get that with nare a word spoken. His genetics speak for him, and do most of the leg work for him. His efforts do the rest. She wants that for her male offspring. Blame men of old forcing women to choose husbands they would never choose themselves for your plight fellas. Pick women who are on your level as an alpha female is not for you just as the alpha male is not for all females as you seem to think. They are not chosen by him either, so stop the whining.

You spelled discipline wrong