Avoidant attachment styles

Except for the last one (for obvious reasons) all of these apply to my mom

Had to pause after every statement cuz you were speaking so fast, but that's a non-issue. Thank you for this content! 🙏

I’m consciously aware that I’m avoidant. I WANT TO FIX IT! I just started going back to therapy. What I do to partners is not fair to them nor me. 😢

When i love it is always with a full and open heart , my partner is not a talker i know where his Trauma comes from being empathic and able to read energy really well , i know what he wants to say or do but his mouth acts before anything but i know what he truly wants to say , over the moon i found your channel makes me feel that im not odd ❤❤

More of these please!

Yeah, wrong choice😂🖤😎✌️💯

true

your answer--- screw... off

What do ppl who have Avoidant Attachment Styles say to their KIDS ?

Women that can't get past their need to control men. She needs a cat and some more box wine.

I’m too damaged for relationships but I’m happy you’re helping people who still have hope. Have a beautiful day. 🕊

Im def more anxious, but grew up w avoidant parents.

Even though they were anxious ppl-I constantly was chasing them for affection. I only avoided to protect myself from being hurt.

Knowing that-I just had a bad partner for me.

Letting it go means forgiving myself for things I didn’t know and were out of control.

I now wish to bring secure and be secure in relationships.

Authenticity is the way out of these attachment styles.

This is my wife. Absolutely stunned.

Some don't say anything, I for ex.

😮 🫢 ohhhh. K. Yeah. Thank you.

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Hmm this is definitely not me.. I crave closeness because I never had it.

My husband (who is this avoidant type) wouldn't even be as articulate to say these things. He doesn't even know himself enough to say these... He just "ignores" me until I'm done talking.... Sad 😢

Welcome to hell

Thanks for making it palatable

This is me but when friendships get close to being deep.

Okay, the internet loves to dunk on the avoidantly attached, but that's because the people looking up relationship videos are the anxious people who are completely up their avoidant person's ass. It's not just them. It's you, too.

😂😂😂 just like that.

Thank you , felt like Ive been going insane dating an avoidant .

I don’t know about us now 😢

Accurate

Maybe men wouldn’t be avoidant if all women weren’t the same. Happy wife doesn’t equal happy life. It equals beat down, used, manipulated, broke and emasculated. Then when we get frustrated, that makes us emotionally immature.. then when we’ve had enough we’re called avoidant… yeah.. we’re avoidant alright. Avoiding you. Women are so lost.

Good God can’t believe how exact this is to his behavior
Dare I bring up an emotional feeling or concern. He did me a favor and 💥 broke up with me like a blindsided punch. And I do believe he did me a favor!

Wo! My Ex and I had those EXACT same conversations. Makes me wish I had tried to understand him better. Of course, he cheated in the end, so...🙄.

They'll ghost you to avoid talking about the issues.

This hits hard

The last one is hilarious 😂 while I didn’t hear that in my last situationship (he couldn’t commit) I makes feel good knowing I wasn’t the only one to experience that. He was avoidedent through and through I didn’t realize the problems until he discarded me lol

How to fix it?

Yes! Great explanation

He is in the state that he says what it means, but what can we do about that? We are stuck in this for 3 years now

Could you pls switch to differing background colors for say- and mean-labels?! Had trouble following.
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Omg I’ve said all those things 😂😂😂

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Sometimes I feel cornered and pressured and I get anxious and become avoidant and put off communicating because it becomes just too much and I can't deal with the drama and just need space. When I feel forced to communicate and I already feel uncomfortable I feel pressured and trapped and manipulated. Now I know what it must be like when I need reassurance from my friends.❤

I just gave my partner the most beautiful gift. I gave her a lifetime guarantee with it as well.
I gave her the gift of silence

What a perfect example of how of the utmost importance being honest with yourself is.
You can learn all about getting better at communicating but if you do not look under your own surface you will automatically say anything but the true core issue.

I AM RAPED

Thank you so much... your work is helping so many people! ❤

Can you do about disorgsnized as well?

thats exactly what she told me

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Me wanting to say shut up, but also admitting that you’re right. You see me and I don’t like it. However, I’ll work on my triggers and my dismissive nature. 😩

Is she avoidant, borderline or narcissistic if she (1) never asks anything about me or my personal life,or opens up about herself (2) she complies and tries to satisfy my physical needs, (3) she doesn’t like hugging, cuddling or kissing, (4) she’s very insecure about her physical appearance, (5) she craves external validation from men on social media, (6) most weekends she’s out drinking, clubbing, (7) she’s financially unstable and loves shopping, (8) some entitlement, (9) she’s never abusive, (10) once we had a argument and she got triggered and later posted on social media her with another man

My last gf was exactly like this she cut things off on halloween