Hikikomori: Can withdrawal help us to reconnect with the 'self'? – BBC REEL

I found my SELF during lockdown and it is easy and therapeutic

I don't know how to go back to living a social life anymore

Seven years of this has led me to a peace I never new. If you find yourself here know it is not the end, be flexible but be determined to heal, to Love yourself.

Maybe I'm built differently to most other people but I don't crave to be around other people, I don't get lonely, like at all. That's not me trying to sound tough, I genuinely prefer my own company and I haven't spoken to anyone (even to close family members) for over 3 years now, other than medical staff when I broke my arm and a few very brief interactions with supermarket staff after midnight. I'm the most relaxed I've ever been. I know I can't continue like this forever but if I could, I would, and I'd be happy to do it.

That Nigerian mother's accent😏

Awful arrogant video. Who are you to judge the life choices of others? How dare you make this kind of parody with sad music, cold colors and people crying? And you oppose this presumed sadness with the presumed joy of a mother with her son, like saying that if you don't hang out and have children, your life will be awful, and the reason is you, your need of external approval.
And at the same time this video insists in saying that humans are made for connections and therefore being alone is wrong.
It's incredible how bad this video is. If you don't like how others live that's fine, just live in your own way without mocking and judging others. Or maybe that's how you get your clients, you make them feel wrong and you propose yourself as the (expensive) solution of their presumed problems. Congratulations!

I love being alone. I cherish the quiet, being with my own thoughts, or with my books. I reserve my ‘social’ time for those who have earned it, those who respect the value of my peace. I no longer make room for those who would disturb me.

My whole life I've found myself saying "Leave me alone", forced social interaction brought me misery from a young age. The feeling of 'stop the world I want to get off' nearly caused me to end my life. The Lockdowns were sublime, I didn't want them to end, I found the peace I had craved my whole life and was happier than I have ever been. I found time for my hobbies and rediscovered interests I had not thought of for decades. Calling this a condition that requires treatment is a severe misunderstanding of human psychology.

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Just taking a moment to praise the editing and the whole production of this. And I love the way it acknowledges both sides of withdrawing, as something beneficial to reconnect with our inner self and something that can easily result in loss of all social connection. A great video to start the conversation.

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How are the mother and child ‘alone’?

This video is very artistic. I am glad this topic gains awareness, I used to struggle a lot with this.

BAD Video 👎👎👎

How disappointing. This video had a real opportunity to be an insightful and informative piece on a topic that definitely needs more attention but it instead settles for being an 'artistic' video that offered no real substance on the issue.

Isolating yourself can help to lead to inner peace. I could never full isolate because I still need to work but when my roommate and I parted ways and I began to live on my own, my happiness shifted. I felt like I found a part of me that was missing.

I've never seen so much self-congratulatory masturbation in a comments section. No one wants to be around you people LOL! But keep pretending that it's your choice.

Normf@%&otry. Constant social expectations shoved down your throat, none of which you ever consented to. Feeling like the real you can't measure up and the fake, ideal you is too hard to sustain. The end result is isolation. It's the only way to sustain any sense of 'self' in a world that is hellbent on telling you why you should be more like someone else.

I'm a Hikikomori with degrees in Engineering and Law. Could use someone to talk to.

Nice that peope are talking about this serious problem but this video didn't really say anything meaningful at all. It was full of just cliche platitudes that will do nothing for the people who find themselves stuck in this reality. (Speaking from experience) This problem is so much more nuanced and complex than people realize. Also, all of the people saying they love living like this? Yeah, you aren't hikikimori. You're just introverts that try to relate to us (real sufferers) because you were locked in for awhile during a pandemic. Get real. Spend 9 years in this situation against your will and then get back to me about how much you love it. Take covid isolation that we all felt and amplify that by a million. That's what a hikikimori is. 1 or even 3 years of this lifestyle isn't quite reaching a definitive hikikimori status. It has to become a state that you feel powerless to change and that has taken away a very large chunk of what are supposed to be the most vibrant and active years of your life. I'm dying. No. I am already dead.

I experienced this in lockdown, after losing my job. Days just blend into one another, time just passes. It drove me crazy, well I had a breakdown. But thats what saved me, I got help and thats what drew me back into the world. It was awful, but I learnt alot from the experience, I really appreciate life and the world its quite wonderful. I changed careers and now work in mental health supporting others who are struggling. It was an awful experience, but maybe what I needed

I had painful time and I was writing.

Weird African American monologues, I think it's a case of phizophrenia here, not hikkikomori sociophobia in the African American in question.

I've been a hikkikomori for 15 years now, but even for me these are strange conversations.

The world is silly nonsense these days, hot trash can garbage. It doesn’t deserve us.

A lame attempt to make this seem like an issue in the black community? There comes a time in everyone’s life where they NEED some time to themselves. However in Japan it’s a huge problem as it’s doing damage to their population as more young people are isolating themselves and dying alone.

I did this after leaving my now-ex husband and pandemic at the time. It was early 2020. I barely bathed, barely talking to anyone outside of God and my family. Lonliness and depression worked alongside me every day. In a way, i would call this hikikomori.
3 years later, i am thankful to say that i got out of that, saught help, got my own place, and in a new and loving relationship. ❤

In 2020 after loosing my job i decided to become a hikikomori and shut in for over 3 years

I don’t socialize at this time in my life but I certainly have at other points in my life. I don’t socialize now because groups that I have tried in the last 7-10 years have started off well and then the groups either get shut down or I feel as though I’m not accepted I feels that I’ve been shunned and I don’t go back to them. Unless I find a new social option that for me is affordable and within public transportation I probably will not try any other ones. 🤷‍♀️

I like this video.

waa i just want people to be happy i used to be a hikomori when i was around my terrible mom and i stopped bc i wasn’t put around bad ppl anymore and i just feel sooo bad for the people that are still in that horribleness they are innocent and theyvdeserve to find their place where they are happy and around people that make them feel saf e if thats you im crying for you😢😢❤