The REAL Reason Why People Don't Like You

Well said Nick, theres a decent sized list of people that dont like me, although I always consider my partner and close friends.

Floyd. YES. Go see the Saucers you won’t regret it.

I think this is fantastic feedback.

You probably wouldn't like the people that don't like you! Don't give them a thought.

Worth watching twice, or maybe three times.

Are they in a position to do me physical harm or affect my income?

I retired 2 years ago at 56...I only tell people I am retired if they ask...thats because Ive found that people in general will resent you because are a reminder to them of how trapped they are. The greatest thing about retirement is that you are beholden to no one

Thank you Nick. This is an excellent video. Every point seems so relevant, and invite further contemplation and practice. It is hard to ingest all at once. I hope you will elaborate on each of the points in subsequent videos!

An interesting video. Many points I have thought myself, though it is sometimes harder to 'live them'.

I totally agree with you! Most people are NOBS!😂😅😊

Hi Nick. It's taken too long for me to learn this lesson. I still get a bit triggered when I sense people don't like me or don't agree with how I'm living my life. But I've learnt to notice these feelings and am getting better at shrugging people's opinions of me. I'm more peaceful for it! Better late than never, hey? Have a great weekend! 😊

Sound advice. I'm 55, been retired for two years and still care dearly what people think of me. I'm actively trying to stop caring howeve, it was a mindset I developed over my whole working life. I need to start living on my terms now. Thanks for your advice, much appreciated.

Good man . Well spoken sir .
Yes , I am a piece of art , a Jackson Pollick I think LOL
Forced by illness to retire , very difficult for the first 4 years , now I'm getting sporadic attacks of peace , calm & possibly understanding . A fascinating place to be indeed .
Cheers mate ❤

Great advice with no waffle!👍

If people genuinely didn’t care what others thought, then the C19 “pantomime” would not have happened, I find very can few actually disengage from society and other people…

I think if people are difficult company or do not understand you, don't be unkind - rather, be polite for the sake of peace, but just minimise your contact with them. You don't want them around you, but you also don't want enemies

Live on your terms, not theirs.

I spent most of my youth and young adult life trying to be what people wanted me to be which caused nothing but anguish and harm.
Don’t be like that.

Well done. Quick and brief. Straight to point without waffle👍👍

I retired from the NHS four years ago. Several colleagues had my contact details but I never heard from them again. I had a coffee with a good pal who told me some of my ex colleagues had also now retired, he recounted that on meeting one of them it was mentioned that they all met up regularly. Apparently one of them, at their last day out, had asked after me, to be told not to bother about how I was doing because I was never going to be back in touch with them. How I laughed at the irony in that remark but the truth is I recently changed my phone number and cancelled my social media. Goodbye ladies! 😂

Over the years I've identified my faults and, where necessary, I've adapted and changed my behaviour. There are still things about my personality that may be seen as flaws but I've made all the changes I feel are important. I'm comfortable with who I am, faults and all 😊

Perhaps if people don’t like you, the common denominator being “you” is something to take a look at? This guy speaks from his personal experience. In many videos he assumes everyone has the same experiences as him, so that might be one reason people might not take to him as much as they do others.

I like that people dont like me

More wise words from Nick.
Most of your points resonated with me, i think trying to be liked by everyone
is the biggest waste of your time and life.
Also letting go of your work place takes a while, they will have forgotten about
you in a few weeks, do the same don't try to continue any contact or you will
never move on.

I don't like humanity, ive decided they're a vile calamity of evolution

I have an uncle like that..all my aunts and uncles are kind to me..neighbours..family friends..but he loathes me because i constantly make art and paintings and have a very good general knowledge and started my own business last year..when he lives in a shack in the middle of nowhere and wont even sign up for a basic job just to get himself going..he tries to make art but it doesnt work and he makes public art with a gang of other guys who he never mentions and has lots of spare time and in that time..makes absolutely no art and cannot sculpt paint or draw and hates me!!!! So much!!!..and is sneaky enough to be nice to everyone else in my family..i hate that!!

I literally respect nobody nor trust anyone so why would I care?

Don't take any notice off anybody from a council estate they are toxic and can never get over the fact that they are second class citizens in their own country

Most Americans absolutely hate thinkers!

You retired at 44 years of age, thats a hats off, back on & off again to you. Thought I took it too early @ 48, though soon swung into it by me late 50's. "Everything is work" !

Retired at 44 😮 !! Wow , I thought I was doing well at retiring at 57. Bravo.

this is important for teenagers

"Let Them"

when people realise its all in their head for 90% of the time, you will wake up. fixed ideas and judgements about life and they are unable to see or look beyond them.

I hate people in general, majority of people are sh1t. There no such thing as friends unkess your doing something for them. I keep myself tonmy self. I just find it more peaceful and drama free being on my own. Yeah it gets lonely but is what it is. I do not care in the slightest what people think of me as long as they keep it to them selfs otherwise i just fight them.

I teach high school. I’m going to show this to my seniors, and tell them to learn these lessons NOW rather than 40 yrs from now.

Ummmm no. What people think about you DOES matter. Just not ALL of them. The ones that add to your life, livelihood, and hapiness matter. Family , Colleagues and Community.

We can survive even if we dont appeal to others or fall out of favor with those we once were close to. But telling ourselves what people think doesnt matter is a form of denial. Useful at times when your focussed on a goal but shouldnt be adapted as a overall beleif in life.

But if you are or have been misjudged its important to remind yourself you have an edge over this unwarranted projection. Thats the juice that sometimes keeps people marching. And your hater cant figure it out so quickly. Oh well.

''ignore and flourish.''

You give such good advice! Thank you, Nick. 😊

Absolutely brilliant video. Going to watch again. Thank you

Coz they do NOT like themselves alone ...

I've noticed that people in general have become far more guarded, stand-offish and judgmental. COVID was a bit of it, also technological advancement, etc...

"Why don't people like me?"

Don't know and why the f$%k should I care?

Seriously. It's none of my business what other people think or why.

I had so-called friends but they fell by the wayside over the years and now I have zero friends but that is fine by me. I have tried too hard in the past to please people and have worn myself out at times, but I understand now that they were really using me as a step up in order to live their lives. As time passed (I'm over 60 now with cancer) I began to realise that I mattered and looking back I now see the error of my ways. Being nice to some people will wear you out, others align and help. But I am tired and partly worn out, the only friend I ever had was my wife and sometimes during the past I forgot that. Our 40th anniversary today and I couldn't be happier.

What other people think of me is non of my business.

Jealousy mostly if they don't like you !

Even a-list celebrities, actors and pop stars arent liked by everyone. Some are despised. They should teach this in school

They all like and love me and want to be me😅