How To Tell If A Man Hates Women

It's the classic "when someone shows you who they are, believe them"

I once had a guy approach me and his opener was how I looked so much like his ex but she was a crazy b****. Like... how did you expect I would respond?

One of the hardest red flags for me to learn is when man makes an unsolicited claim to be a feminist. The earlier on the claim comes, the redder the flag.

I was on the other side of the "bad exes"... I justified her so many times but when none of your exes want to stay in contact with you... It's impossible that everyone is driving on the wrong lane. And she even bashed me for basically having stayed friend with almost all of mine, or even having introduced them to their current boyfriend or husbands

The all my exes are bad, is a red dress made out of red flags... regardless of gender

Great technique! This also works more generally in life:I find it useful to note how all people describe others, for all kinds of relationship - romantic, friendship, or professional. Sometimes people even describe experiences, meals, places etc. by listing only what they hate. Very conspicuous. My response then is usually "OK well what DO you like?". Sometimes people literally respond to that with "what do I like ... hmmm... I dunno, but I'll tell you what I DON'T like" and at that point I'm out.

I have found this to be true, most people can't wait to reveal their vices and imperfections.

But the one with the exes can be say about women, so a lot of women hate men?
Dont hate men/woman , lear to hate every one to the point that you understand them and you dont give s f anymore.

This is not a gender specific thing. Women say the same things about men as men do about women. It's literally a he-said she-said so stop ignoring the she-said.

I don't understand. A lot of the comments are flaming men for talking bad about their ex (otherwise if they were so great why would they have split up???) but
every date I've taken out has complained and talked very nasty about their ex boyfriends just to get me to dislike their exes. Why is it not okay for men to talk about the negatives of a past relationship but somehow okay when women do it.

My wife met most of my exes while we were dating, after we got serious.
She thought it was weird, until she realized that these were just friends that I had once dated.
They are now her friends as well.

The real test of a man’s character is how he treats women who he doesn’t want to fuck.

I am a guy, but it is a red flag for me if a male friend/acquaintance doesn't have real friendships with women. I wouldn't want a friend of mine being with a guy who doesn't see women as potential friends.

It is also just very sad for that man. He wakes up with 50% less potential friends, perspectives etc. in his world.

Did you know, loving your mom makes you a "manbaby"? 🤡

My ex husband had stories of how crazy all his exes were. I wish I’d seen that for the red flag it was. Turns out he mistreated women until they snapped. Plus found out what he called crazy was the women calling him out for crap he did.

A man might well think he loves women - just that he loves them home, cooking his dinner - not side by side in the workplace.

whereas a lady with a forty year dating history of guys she has only ill to speak of is *objectively correct*, and a guru. noted

Absolutely true 💯

How to tell if a woman hates men...

"Men don't like women." Is such a wildly sexist take. Lmao.

never interrupt your opponent when they are making a mistake or something like that

I remember in high school I would tell my friends. If you’re on a date pay attention to how he treats the server. The greeter. How a man treats you is not a good indicator because these dudes know what to do and say. But how people treat people lower than them socially is always the first thing I notice.

The thing with "nice guys" is that they're nice as long as you're nice to them. But try criticizing them or angering them and see how easy it is for their niceness to go away. Because they're performatively nice. Actual nice people will still be kind even if you piss them off.

That part about the crazy exes is a bit incidental for me because half were decent women that we just didn't vibe totally or grew apart. But I've also had some legitimately crazy ones that were, uh, not normal by any standards.

My fiance described his relationship with his ex wife initially as "we just have too different of approaches to life but we're both good parents so we lean on each other for different things." I mean, that's accurate, but he let me discover for myself that she's kinda self-absorbed and unaware of the feelings of others. He also described another ex I turned out to know as having "ghosted me, but I didn't take it personally because she seemed confused." And tbh knowing her I was instantly like "that tracks" 🤣 It's true, men who aren't defamatory toward their exes are the best 💖

Gee...who'd have EVER thought that the best and most efficient way to find out what somebody thinks or feels about a topic/demographic is to LISTEN to them and ask clarifying questions...

I'd have never figured THAT out in a million years...that's some fine sleuthing indeed.
Society needs a reboot T_T

What's funny about this is that women don't actually want a man that likes women in general, they want someone who is nice to them specifically.

I'd say it's an overgeneralisation to say that a guy bad-mouthing all his exes always means he hates women. If the genders were reversed we wouldn't assume a woman bad-mouthing all her exes hates men. More often than not, this is a result of a lack of self-awareness which doesn't automatically lead to misogyny/misandry.

Not raised; it’s learned through experience

I feel like the first thing a man has to do if he wants to be mentally healthy is to understand and appreciate himself as an individual. Otherwise he will never be able to really hear what women around him are saying and appreciate in impartially. So just write down what matters to you, as an individual human being. "I want to build a business." "I want to be a manager." "I want a wife and children." And then just go out, and meet someone to do that with. Forget "out there", forget the world. Forget this "men" nonsense. Let go of the podcasts, the stupidity. Just be you and live your life. I guarantee you no woman would ever begrudge you that. Just focus on your life and ignore the rest.

Woman hate or people hate? I think yall are confusing trust issues with misogyny. Further, you can't tell me these hosts are "men lovers" either. Like the woman on here said roughly: "..I'm listening, waiting for the truth to come out of their mouths about women.." So she already knows that the men being interviewed are woman haters, she's just waiting for it to "emerge". That's called prejudice, that's called sexism.

Do people really need to be told to their prospective partners to learn about them? I always got shit for treating dates like job interviews, but man, did I learn about which women had red flags and which jad green ones. Yeah, it's an interview, a relationship interview.

But women hating men is entirely justified right? Thats always the go-to. If you dont think this is justified at all then theres nothing wrong with this video inntje slightest but if you do then lmao

So if you don’t love your mother you hate women, if you do love your mother you’re a man-baby?

I feel like this is one of those “There are no right answers” situations.

Generalising nonsense from Americans without qualification.

Statistically speaking there is at least one genuinely good dude out there who just had sh*t luck and all of his exes are legitimately horrible people

This video complains about a problem while portraying the problem, while doing the same thing (lousy podcasts where nothing deep or meaningful is said).
Talks shit about all their exes can be something to be worried about, and why focus on the sex, or gender, or sexual orientation for that matter, of who behaves like that? Why not focus on the issue? Even that could make a more interesting conversation, then podcast, then video.

Women don't even like women.

How do they talk about there ex. Use that standards for most.

A lot of guys prefer the "crazy hot chick." I had two different men tell me that I was great but "too put together," and "too normal," for them. These are the same guys who likely badmouth their "crazy exes."

I loved all my exes but they weren’t right for a lifelong marriage for me

This is Reddit manifest. Hopefully no young men listen to any of this.

i used to think the whole “my ex is crazy” thing was unfair. i had a legit terrible ex and there was no way for me to talk about them without me coming off like that. then i got to a place in my healing where i just prefer not to talk about the ex at all, and i’ve found ways to tell my stories that exclude them as much as possible. and i realized just spending that much energy on your ex IS the red flag.

I used to like women. Then I spent more time with them. They changed that.

It goes both ways, women have this problem too

I can't remember who it was, and maybe somebody in the comments section can enlighten me, but I do recall it was a stand-up comedian. Said something along the lines of "there are plenty of guys who talk about their absolutely insane ex-girlfriends... Ever noticed that girls really don't talk much about their crazy ex-boyfriends?" Minor chuckles from the crowd. "You ever wonder why that is?" Some straight up laughter from the crowd at this point. "It's because some of them are dead." Complete silence.

Mysoginy be fruity asf. Like bro why are you treating aboy better than a girl?

But why say “all men” are like that? Why make the same mistake as those men make, and shoving everyone of a gender in the same little box?

After 3 relationships gone wrong being cheated on by a woman you loved I'm done with women all I can say is be about your 💰 I ignore women they are toxic and unfaithful

Do they have female friends that they have long term friendships with.