How To Rebuild Lost Trust In A Relationship

I'm writing this and I'll come back after some time. If hope we could fix things together, if not, I hope it ended well.

I'm here watching this from now on to work on rebuilding trust from the people that I love the most, especially my mother and girlfriend 😢

😢 i can't .
why its so hard for me. 😢

I need a lot of help with this one

I believe when trust is broken, it can’t be rebuilt with the person you once knew. That person is gone, and now you are with a completely different person.

Unlike a glass vase, I see trust as a measuring cup. You and your partner are the water inside the measuring cup and it’s at 100%. When trust is betrayed, the jug tips over and now it’s capped to a maximum of 90% or even as low as 20%.

With trust going forth, you have 2 options: you can either pour the water in a smaller cup to achieve the 100% capacity again or you can dump the water out completely.

The thing about transitioning to a smaller cup is now you don’t know anything really about this person except the idea that was presented in the measuring cup. This smaller cup can end up being the best, but it won’t ever be the same as the previous measuring cup.

Besides cheating and abuse, sometimes the smaller cup isn’t the bad option because the reality is no human being is perfect, and the harsh reality is most relationships formed in our time end in the smaller cup.

Edit- Just to clarify, if there’s cheating and abuse involved, it’s always best to just dump the water immediately.

he cheated lied and left and here I an trying to learn how to trust him again after we decided to try again

4 suggestions yet worth their weight in gold!!

Self forgiveness is a road block for some people. It’s one for me.

"Sooner or later it's gonna happen", like it's a normal.
Yeah, that statement makes the cheaters happy.
The fact is you cheat only if you want to cheat.

it's hard to start trusting someone because the pain is too deep

I want to trust and i want to be trusted again i didnt know the mistakes i was making and i really hope to fix things with myself and the relationship i have hurt

Thankyou ❤️😊

I checked her messages without her consent and now its like shes never gonna forgive me. Or things wont be the same. Ionno what to do cuz she's the only amazing thing left

It's not me who needs to learn how to trust or to prove myself
I would protect you but you know what's happened

Point 4: What if the friend/spouse/family member is making all the changes apart from in the specific area that is the most damaging to you/your relationship?

thanks

Thank you ❤

Now the much truth I am saying I am losing her more.

At least I didn’t cheat

People handle me all wrong

I don’t think the positive story part is gonna happen…😢

I don’t think I could ever trust my ed husband. He’s never apologize for his behavior.

Basically me an my bf had an argument of how this girl I didn't even know who she was when I could of asked him about an now he thinks I'm jealous cause he thinks I dnt trust him idk how to handle tht it's getting frustrated 😭😭 on things how I hurt him dnt mean to

So how do I fix it 😭

❤ love this, incorporating into my life

I needed this ❤.

What if I want to rebuild the trust but they don’t think we can? How do I do it then? How do I prove myself… or how do I move on?

losing the love of my life, i appreciate you, i will work hard

I like how I feel like I’m not the only one going through so much, I feel a sense of community in the comments, ur not alone 😭

Never take advice from others who don't have to experience the same results.

Me l lied my spouse than my children are of one father now my sister told him that they are of different fathers now he cant trust in me 😢😢

Please Lord let me sit still for this one

what if your dishonest(lie) come from bieng bulleid during the school times ( 10-20 age ) and you go of school going into work but never healed from your past traume, so you keep using lies to protect your self from truth? not sure what you call it, when person is still running away from it past, and keep using lies to protect them self, even in relationships?

I love the saying at the end of this 😢

This is so inspiring. My mind has been consumed with thoughts of him. It's been six months since he left, and the pain feels like a physical ache. The laughter, the memories, the adventures they're all gone. I've tried to distract myself, but the harder I try, the more I think about him. How do people truly move on? The memories are still so vivid, and I miss him more than words can express.

1. Communicate (frequency and detail)
2. Connection (listen, talk, sort things out)
3. Talk (what’s wrong; new agreements and commitments; documents the agreement)
4. Keep a positive story (both parties focus and communicate positivity about each other).

You don’t know how much I needed to watch this. It feels like this video was made for me. My partner and I broke up three months ago after four years together, and I’ve been struggling to find a way to move forward.

Even my trust with the 12step people

My best friend forgiven me but she is still angry at me

Some people told me I should give my friend a space because she was hurt but I feel like I want to talk to her

My guy got another lady pregnant n i am finding it difficult to trust him again after he still wants the relationship 😢😢😢 wat should i do

What’s the point now the vibe is off move on

I’m just really trying to watch this to see if I will feel better but my heart is aching, and every moment feels empty without him. I'm holding on to the hope that we'll be together again, and my happiness will be restored.

What I did was of no malicious intent. I was fearful and concerned for her wellbeing and was taking advice from all the wrong places

I desperately want my friend back. And to rebuild what we had. To let things flow naturally this time.

In my attempt to prevent myself from sabotaging things I ended up sabotaging things in the worst way possible…

❤

You can’t rebuild trust with a narcissist

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This is an excellent video. I'm still struggling to move on from my seven year relationship. My ex, who I genuinely thought was the love of my life, broke up with me a month ago, and I just can't seem to let go. I feel frustrated and helpless because nothing I've tried has brought him back. I've attempted to move on, but my heart still aches for him, and I can't see a way forward.