114. Friendship

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It just feels to me like part of the beauty of friendships is that you don't have a script. Unlike romantic relationships or family relationships where there are so many rules and expectations, friendships can he whatever you want. You can decide how much time you want to spend with someone or if you don't want to see someone as much anymore and that gives you freedom and variety to your positive interactions with others.

Yes, i do wonder how social scripts for friendships could provide a referential backdrop for when the friendship needs a response during any challenging turns in the relationship.

Shallow friendship😭😭I don't like them.

I enjoyed the conversation, the term "situationship", which aptly describes social life. I was wondering why nobody pointed out that women divulge more -- but to other women, obviously way less to men. Thus, it's not so surprising that men divulge less. The point is that one reason that men are like men is that women want it that way.

Can you revisit some Schopenhauer?🙏

I mean I don't think anyone in society wants to put romantic relationships over other types of interaction. It seems to me like that just happens naturally because, by their nature, romantic relationships create very strong emotions.

Another great epsiode!

I have not finished listening to yet, but seeing the works discussed I was sad to see no mention of Derrida's book on friendship because outside the garbled Aristotle quote no one can give up that he claims starts each part, I can't understand it at all and I was hoping you smarter folk have braved it and could leave a bread crumb trail for the rest of us or tell us that our instinct is right and it is a big mess that makes no sense even by Derrida's standards