297: ONE CHANGE That *FINALLY* Impacted My Unbelieving Husband // Dealing With An Unyoked Marriage

This was amazing. Thank you so much. My husband isn’t a believer. This was encouragement that I needed.

Thank You so much for the message.
I needed to hear that.

Thank you for this. Pray for my husband. Name is Robert. I am praying for all
Your husbands.

Our conduct is investing in eternity is so perfectly put and each day we are one day closer to our husband’s change.

Thank you for this encouragement. Truly. I thought I was alone in this because, you’re right, it’s not something women want to talk about. Thank you for sharing your story. I know what I need to do now.

This is one of the best encouraging videos I've come across because I was locked in as soon as I realized my story is almost identical, yet Im still trying to hang in there til the breakthrough with my husband. Thank you for sharing because I scroll past videos of couples that didn't experience these hardships.

I wasn’t a believer or at least not baptized in the Holy Spirit or close to the Lord when I married my husband though I grew up in s Christian home. He was brought up Catholic and doesn’t know Jesus. I was radically saved but he is still in dark religious deception. So I can relate.

I know this is true but it's still hard to hear. My husband is an alcoholic and abuses drugs ( prescribed). In and out of rehab yet he goes to church and serves there. He can be so great and so horrible. Jekyll and Hyde. I am ready to leave. It's the hypocrisy that gets me. I know this is correct but it seems harder to do as he gets worse. There is also no discipline in church. It is abuse but they don't agree apparently. Also I'm 75 and not well. Just too tired of the whole thing.

Thank you very much Heidi this is very encouraging!
I am in that situation actually now for 10 years now, but one I know for sure I pray.

I hope it will come through for me, i feel like i,m closer to God then i have ever been, but our marriage is as broken as it can be, i always said i,m not leaving the marriage, but i,m thinking can i hold on any longer.

Thank you! This is so encouraging!! I feel the Lord directed me to your site today!!! I’m ready to trust God and do this , not only for my husband but children too!!! I’m trusting in His Promises!!❤

After we had kids, I put my foot down about going to church. I told my husband that his Dad took HIM to church every Sunday and he needed to take HIS kids to church. Me telling him that was whst finally got him to start going to church. And he even enjoyed it.

This is my life. 24 years we’ve been together and he has now been diagnosed with dementia. The dementia has softened his anger. He still has really bad days where his words hurt so deeply but not as many of those days.
I just stopped trying and gave it to God. I have to focus on my relationship with God and leave all else at His feet.

The "one thing" starts around the fifteen minute mark.

I so needed this today. Thank you ❤

I’m very thankful to have come across your videos. I’m in the why stage . So many questions.

Yes, I resonate with your message 100%! Thank You for sharing❤❤❤❤❤❤.

I did that for 16 years, for me, it did not work. I actually, and it was only once, heard the voice of God. God told me to GET OUT. We make mistakes in all different situations, and I had truly made a bad mistake by marrying him. God showed me that it was square peg, round hole. It was never going to work. I never loved the guy for 16 years. I did my wifely duties and godly chaste behavior. I did everything for 2 years before I divorced him. Wevwent to counseling and I told him lets just be friends. He's truly not someone I enjoyed hanging out with. I didn't like him but I had to love him with agape love. I never spoke bad about him and still do not. I still pray for him. He's still a miserable person to this day. Unfortunately, he married a girl just like me. She's sunshine while he's eeyore. I'm a tigger as well as herself and we are/were married to an eeyore. Melancholy guy to the max. It's sad to live in such a negative environment. It's sad to live in a body that's so negative. After I divorced him, he eventually went back to drinking, and it makes him an easier going person while he's medicating himself by drinking. The lady he married asked one of my daughters, "How did your mom do this all those years"! Yeah! He hasn't changed all the years. Prayers for him yall!

“I would force him to…”

Ah it never ceases to amaze me how Christian women strive for control

Last night, I had a difficult conversation with my husband. I told him that I no longer feel comfortable doing some of the things I used to do with him because they were not Christlike. I explained that I wouldn’t join those events anymore because I want to stay truthful to my convictions about the sins I’ve repented of. He was very unhappy and even called me an “extreme Christian.”

But I won’t stop praying for him. This morning, the first thing I did was listen to your video to focus my spiritual mind on Jesus. All I can do is pray and entrust my husband to Jesus. I love him, and I believe Jesus loves him even more.

I have a very similar story. Praying for daily growth in each of us. 🙏

1 Peter 3 : 1 & 2

Thank you for this message, it was exactly what I needed. Please pray for my husband Joel and for my surrender to allow God to be make me new.

Thank you for the reminder I needed this.

I’m tired of my marriage , my husband is a non believer he doesn’t believe in Christ , he said I should stop worshipping Christ but I should follow his religion ….. I’m thinking of leaving him , I can’t compromise my faith ….

Thank you so much for this.

Aloha. I would appreciate your prayer for our family. My husband is meant to be in ministry too.

Thank you for this video and your testimony 🙏 ❤

Amen and amen! 32 years later I'm still believing, still walking it out in front of him like you said.

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my husband and i got baptized agin as adults and we have been together for over 10 yrs and 3 kids later.... he knows i love the Lord i show him everyday but he tricked me acting like he was dedicating himself to christ but all he was doing was hiding behind being a christian, he only acts like a christian around me but he is very much worldly and dont want to give it up for nothing in the world... i thought after 15 plus yrs of being a women of God finally he would believe but i see so many clues everyday that it is all just a front. sad, i pray for his soul every chance i get. so everyone wont be a CHRISTIANS just because they claim to be ... God Bless.

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I truly needed to hear this

I won my husband that way 30 years ago. He became a teacher of the Word. We left our church because we saw so many untruths. Many years went by and couldn't find a biblical church. Now he has fallen away. He has went so far to say that Jesus is not God.😮 Do you have any suggestions to bring him back or is too late and can't bring him back?

Just randomly found this. Thank you for this. I really need to hear this.

I love this video so much it just lets me know I am not the only one who is going through this very issue. Everything you said is so true I am currently seeing the changes in my husband after letting it go of trying myself and just seeking God. Thank you for this!☺

Don't stop praying . If God got me a hooligan man to surrender He can do anything. ❤

Thank you for talking about this.

I'm glad this video came up and I agree, that's something the Lord gave me recently after years of being shaky with Him. You have to be the light. My only thing is I can't seem to find anyone with similar stories to me. God had been trying to tell me the whole time I was going in the wrong direction but I didn't recognise His voice at the time because I'd shut down for other reasons. Then years later, we got married and I really crumbled with my mental health to a very dangerous point. But then God got me back and showed me where I went wrong. He's separated our living situation, but made I clear I wasn't to divorce. I see why He's done it and it makes sense so neither me or my husband fall back into old patterns and risk my faith and life stopping again. But I also see its allowing my husband to see Jesus in a way our circumstances wouldn't have allowed before. But here's my problem, my love for my husband is huge, he's my best friend, we aren't the arguing fighting couple and the love is great but between recognising what God had been trying to show me the whole time and now being back in His presence, it genuinely feels so incredibly wrong being with my husband and I'm wanting to walk away. I don't want to disobey God, He told me Himself I'm not to walk away properly, but it also feels like a dark weight that's stuck to me and want to break free from. As you described, I see what God is doing with him, how He's using me to show him and I'm so encouraged and hopeful, but I'm the one that's wanting out... how do I even deal with that? I love him, I want him, but it just feels wrong. I've not found anyone else in similar circumstances and feel lost about it

Hi. Shall we pray together?

I am currently going thru a similar situation with an unbelieving husband. Tried it all nagging, complaining, manipulating to no effect. i began ny walk with Lord our relationship went downhill. He is a non believer and ever since i began my walk with Lord, it has become very difficult. I gave surrendered to the Lord as I understand only Jesus can soften a hardened heart. i have immeresed myself in hearing the wird, reading the Bible and trying my best to be a light and reflect Christ like character. God is faithful and nothing is too hard for him. Trusting him to draw my husband out of the darkness into His light...thanks for sharing..greatly encouraged..God Bless

Do you think this same spiritual principle applies to dealing with parents that claim to be christians but have not devoted themselves to christ and constantly have conflict because i'm exceedingly more spiritually mature than they are and submit to God and not them? I was recently reading the scripture about dusting your feet off too. Once we fully submit to God and no longer worry about them, we allow God to what he does best and perform miracles.

I. Love the way you teach women and share your failures and faults through transparency. You caused me to repent of things i needed to stop doing as a Christian woman.❤🙏🏾

I. Love the way you teach women and share your failures and faults through transparency. You caused me to repent of things i needed to stop doing as a Christian woman.❤🙏🏾

I’m in a season of struggle with this in my marriage. I’m the “spiritually mature” spouse (and still immature) and I struggle so much with my husband. A professing believer but so many actions and attitudes contradict this. I don’t see any fruit and it’s frustrating. We’ll discuss the Bible and if I share something I learned he’s always wanting to dispute or argue with me about it and it gets heated quick. I get so frustrated and prideful and have even said to him he has no right correcting me when he never studies and is Biblically illiterate. He cherry picks Scripture and will use it to “defend” his incorrect beliefs.

I know I have a pride issue and I need to check myself. I know he has a heart issue and I need to pray for him. In the meantime, I’m really struggling in the day to day to watch my attitude and not treat him poorly.

This was much much needed! Thank you for letting the Lord use you to spread this message

I fought for 25 years before the Lord brought my husband to his knees and he accepted Jesus. As I began praying and reading God's Word and being the woman that God wanted me to be, He changed me, and believe me, I was not perfect. But God did such a work in me that my husband saw the changes in me and when I forgave him for all the things that had happened in our marriage, my husband saw all of those things and he couldn't believe that I would forgive him for all the things that had happened in our marriage. The Lord worked a mighty work in his life and our marriage changed. I was so angry, and I was going through so much after his changes. But God, in His timing, knew that I would go through all of these things and He has never left me nor forsaken me. The Lord knew that I was going to need my husband because a year later, I lost my mom. then a year after that, my aunt and a year after that, my husbands grandmother, whom I was very close to. So believe me, it is hard, and the Lord can change the heart as long as we continue to pray and stay close to Him. Jesus is amazing and the work that He does in our lives, through the work of the Holy Spirit in us, is amazing. He continues to change us and make us more like Himself. Praying for all of you who have been through difficult marriages.