Lesbians, Self-Sabotage, and Finding Love: Tips from Your Southern Host

Bold of you to assume I flirt with women 😂

I had a conversation with my psychologist not too long ago about behavioral perfectionism. I was going to write someone off that acted in a way that felt slightly off to me but not alarming or shocking. She encouraged me to give that person another chance and be more open and I’m glad I did. It’s not really fair to judge someone when there hasn’t been a pattern of behavior and it was just an incident. What I consider “perfect” is unique to me and not an unannounced status quo I can impose on others.

I’m getting myself out there, doing what I can with what I have. Taking chances. I don’t know where I’ll be living in 3-4 years and I do struggle with feeling like I should table some folks who are very rooted to where I live now. But I’m not going to assume how people feel, I’ll just ask.

I think I give off major do not disturb vibes. 🆘 Headphones and looking away from people while on transport or walking. I just don’t want to attract men. If I could have a cardboard sign that said “women welcome, men move along” I’d feel more comfortable to put that extra effort into my appearance.

I can usually catch pretty quick when I’m self sabotaging and ask myself: what is this behavior attempting to soothe in me? Is this dread a “I don’t want to do this but I need to” or “I don’t want to do this because it doesn’t feel right?” That’s the real work. Depending on how I answer that question is how I redirect.

The olympics are so cool but I can’t see the youngins as hot. 😂

Have a good week!

My thing is that I am a truck driver so I feel bad asking a woman to be in a relationship where she only gets to see me one night a week. I know that I really should get out there anyway and let her decide if it’s something she can handle, but you know, it’s that self sabotage thing again.

Hey, let’s collaborate sometime and grow our channels.

Love Abraham hicks!!!

I love how real you are! And this has been my million dollar question for quite awhile now. Where do you meet other lesbians at our age? Traveling alone admittedly does scare me, but I suppose it would possibly provide some opportunities. I just have so many considerations about things. I’ve been in therapy for about 5 years now and it’s helped so much…yet I still feel “stuck” when it comes to meeting lesbians. I just can’t seem to find any beautiful women…or if I happen to see someone, they are married or already hooked up, or are hetero.
Coming out later in life has been affirming yet disappointing. I feel like I missed my window and like the lesbian ship has just sailed. I lost my chance. Should have chosen my authenticity when I was younger. Thank you for your channel and inspiration tho!