The ‘Black Wife Effect' & Interracial Relationships. #bwwm #interracialrelationships #swirling

I understand your analogy about “the boss and the subordinate” but yikes! I say that the choice to use that illustrates the very problem. In a way, you are giving credence to what we all already know: there IS racial disparity and hierarchy. So I get it, but I was cringing when you said it. As a woman of color, I thank you and also agree that it is EXHAUSTING to have to be the “fix it” for every dang relationship we are in. It is relationally LAZY to do that but that is part of the privilege that is always operating.

I have come to the conclusion that racism and religion are going to be what breaks the US.

Black people have no business ever dating or marrying white people! Just based on history and especially with the racism NOW. Shame on anyone who does it. And when you do so your allegiance to black people will always be questioned…!!
If black people really knew white folks history they would NOT it is the ultimate crime against the ancestors whom they tortured in every way possible.

This BWE is a psyOP. It is created to neutralize the genetics of Black peoples. It is genetic annihilation of the Original peoples!

As a 71 year old black woman who dated men of many races and retiring from a job where I was the only black woman technician, I appreciate this video very much. Though I never felt diminished, I had to always prove my worthiness to even have the job. I was always expected to dial it back because I was told many times that just my presence was intimidating. I was taller than I am now but I have always been strong because that was a requirement of my job. While white men found me intimidating, I was still a vulnerable woman, but no one ever considered me to be so because I was black and they would make that known to me. I’m so glad to see more white men dating black women because it makes me think that we are finally being recognized as women.

How come you did not bring wives or show pictures of wives

People should be able to date and marry whoever they want no matter what color they are and society should not have nothing to say about it.

Racism and idiocracy is a cancer that many people have. The racis,t in order to feel better they have to put others down. Just live your life honestly. All haters age quickly and look wrinkled faster. They are the ones hurting themselves.

The ignorance of humans to believe that any human has black blood. That rule is a social construct.

As you see the number of views, you know bm watches this video as well. Not even % said anything in the comments. Go look at how the red pill and the anti Black Women comment sections. FULL. I'm starting to think 85%of bm have smooth brains. And I use the word "man" after the word "black" verrry lightly. No shade just look.😊

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Love this was so cute.

l have been enjoying this black wife effect and stumbled on this video. l notice something about both gentlemen; you are glowing and moisturised, and black people are big on moisturising / hydrating our skin.

The Black Wife Effect is REAL!❤

I was in married in 1984 for 25 years. We divorce in 2009, but always maintained a strong family and collaborative relationship. My husband is white Canadien from the Maritime Province. I am from the USA midwest. You are on target therapy can help unravel some of the difference in cultural and religious backgrounds. Your therapist needs to have a broad enough background and understanding of difference in culture, religion, economics, and even social adjustments. We were adopted our daughter form China. We made a clear decision during the adoption process to give here the best exposure and encourage to have high self esteem. We had high paid corporate careers that afforded the privilege of living in an exclusive exceptionally wealthy area. I can understand your challenges, and I like that you are openly discussing this hard topic.

I was a Black wife and I think it made my husband step up his game, in a good way.

This was a great interview…and there’s nothing wrong with the Black Wife Effect..black woman have that special essence that whatever they touch bring to their relationships makes it that more special…interracial relationships are increasing more and more and the world is going to be better for it.. it’s a very new day 🤍🖤🤎🤍💯💯💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾😊

Look at Prince Harry!!

Love who you love ❤️ as long as there is love, respect and support.

See white and black.brown or any type of colours is all with the Power and Wisdom created by God this difference s are made by the Evils Spirits of ego and pride of humanity this is y today World have no peace and no unity in this world so is affected by God Blessings and Love of God that's why we are under the influence of Evil is spreading with the in different ways of destroying the World and peoples are dying with so many disses wich from the time I'm born I never had known or Hard such names of sickness

We all are beautiful childrens of Almighty Father God don't please misundasting me I love all as God's love Us be blessed 🙏🙏

I'm a black woman and I'm married to a white man for 35 yrs . I don't pay attention because some people are ignorant I'm in my marriage

I enjoyed watching this as a Black lady. ❤ in the UK.

I feel like both speakers in this video understand how Black (not all & I'm not speaking for every Black person) are treated, disrespected & disallowed to many things.

I'm a black women wishes both of you long marriages. They say anything when a black man is married to a white woman. No matter if we have good incomes educated Cook clean fantastic lovers. Take care of their children it's never enough. Not every black women is loud and crazy acting it's our black men that don't have respect. I believe in interracial relationships longs as we respect each other.

Thank you for stating "turning down the volume". I just came up on this channel. It's funny sorrento my weekend in tears because of all these labels places in me as a black woman. I'm just tired!!

Thank you for normalizing therapy!!

These are two really cool people. No reference to gender or ethnicity. They are just really good people. They are proof that being "woke" is a choice of high quality people. Very good, guys. This is fabulous. Thanks for sharing this talk. 💗

This is dope and hella helpful, thanks man!

I appreciate this interview. I am a Black woman who was married to a White man. We got married in 2000 and we have two adult sons together.

Our marriage did not last, but we transitioned into becoming really good friends, who share children together. But when we were married, there were a fair amount of race related issues that we faced and it was still not normalized to talk about openly... particularly with regards to Black women/White man relationships.

Our interracial dynamic is vastly different from Black man/White woman relationships. Most people were just so happy to see us together, they just assumed that us being together solved all the racial issues in our country and we just became a token of progression. But no one knew the unique struggles we had and we didn't know how to articulate them and admit them to ourselves, let alone each other or others (like our elders) to get support.

We eventually learned how to speak up and share what our struggles were, but that was after our marriage ended. We became good friends together though, and we talk openly with our sons about our relationship, so they can feel free to share their personal experiences as bi-racial men. We ended up creating quite an eclectic and loving non-conventional family together. But I am so happy there are more Black female/White Male couples talking openly about their relationship now so they can offer support to others
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How broken does one have to be to date an ethnic white man or woman? Honestly, just spit your African descent parents’ face?

I love this podcast...or better yet...I love you guys. But...I grew up in the islands with a loving dad and never knew people were different or even black and white. Moving to the states.... especially the South....first time I heard the word racism.... My paler tone friend tried to explain it to me and I laughed because I thought she was joking. Well...I ended up with fibromyalgia later on....Wow......😮 .some.human behavior is really Ignorant compared to what I was taught. But when I learned about Emit Till and history I know to be safe ...it is best to be a Ninja Warrior....😊....dating anyone can be scary ...

Please don't delete these "bad" comments. Address them head on. While you may not change that mind you might change others who read your reply. In addition, we all need to see you defend yourself against ignorance.

You guys give us all hope

Try not to blame your white husband who loves you for everything a white person does to you.

Thanks for shaing your perspectives on this!

These White men are NOT RARE but honestly a SINGLE ONE is hard to find when you have higher standards for a mate. I want someone that is an equal, similar interest and I hope you notice most of these couples meet in school and I wascway to busy struggling to pay and attending college so my openess to a long term relationship came later. It is not as easy to connect later in life because fewer are single. It truly seems that that Men with this open minded attitude, intelligence and humor only really exist in the younger than 45 group. IMy life experiences are broader than a small circle, education focused, influenced by various cultures and more European vs rigid American.

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I love, love, loved this interview! Thank you both for seeing us as just women. Not a statistic or stereotype. It’s pressure all around to just fit in! It can feel very lonely. I appreciate the advocacy. It’s hard being strong all the time. We need a soft place to land.

🤴👸🏿 Statistically have the most successful unions. Women lie, men lie, numbers don't lie. Live, love and laugh people. ❤

I think it's G God's will that white men amd black women are getting married now. I dated a Caucasian man but it was friendship and not romantic but we g genuinely cared for each other. I hope you guys and your wives stay together and be happy ❤.

Thank you so much for tackling this challenging issue in your podcast Mike. It was very informative. I found both you and Kolter very open and knowledgeable.

The wrong therapist is a real thing. My son was born very premature at 23 weeks and I was tell the therapist how worried I was she said I was complaining. I felt like I was just stressed, scared, worried ect.

I am a black woman looking for a white man age from 57 years above that I can give this can of effect to. Hopefully l get one ☝️ thank you 😊