Surviving the Female Narcissist: A Deconstruction by @RICHARD GRANNON

I’m thinking on the other hand, what if the partner was giving silent treatment and you’re needing to talk things out and it winds up being an argument. It could’ve put the other partner into anger of minimal degree. Silent treatment and purposeful avoidance can do a lot …. Even though I was accused of being a narcissist. The covert narcissist partner knows the buttons to push …..I’ve diagnosed myself as CPTSD from my divorce. I feel I’m a victim of emotional abuse but yet I had a close relative say I was the narcissist.

Intermittent reinforcement , cognitive dissonance, trauma bonding are the worst

The best definition of the "push/pull style" I've heard yet. Thank you!

If you hear more than once how you have "crushed", "destroyed" "ruined" them or some derivative of that, leave fast.

you should pin this, so the views reach 1million.

This is a brilliant lecture, I thoroughly can contest that hypothesis around serotonin I've personally experienced it. I had a much more horrendous experience with a narcissistic female than a male one.

The Minnie Mouse pose (shy, head tilt exposing neck, covering mouth smiling) is a good example of what people think it normal femininity. (did I spell that right?)

This is emotional rape/mental rape! Crime? Unfortunately not

A very well-delivered educational piece about a relationship aspect that rarely, if ever, gets covered.
Watching this has made me realise that one of my previous long-term lovers used a tactic whereby, even when she was being vulnerable. She used it as a form of attack and undermining.
The vulnerability being revealed by her was always about her feelings about my core issue/failure/wound/shame and never anything to do with her wounds, fears, failures, shame, or issues. The penny just dropped. Much appreciated.

Can you see why your words mean a lot. Stop with blaming mom all the time with no mention of how the father plays in to creating a narc or borderline. Please use gender neutral words please. It's very dangerous it's a culture of ignorance that sets men and women up to FANTASIZE a non reality. Also realize that in the US we have a pandemic of domestic violence with thousands of women and children dying every year. In the US men commit all mass murders, school shooters, commit most murders overall, sell dangerous drugs, and commit most violent crimes. How do you explain that.

Gender is a social construct and is not reality.

I also believe men are the majority of sexual assault perps. In families which inappropriate sexual contact ect is committed by the men in the family.

Again blaming mothers. The culture including religion teaches girls this just like their mother was brainwashed by religion especially christianity but I believe most religion is damaging to both men and women.

Wow, so my wife gave me PTSD or NAVS. I feel like a light bulb turned on. I need to feel connected, offering value, and see progress everyday. God bless.

Still a great listen!!

Female narcissists are real. I lived through it with my ex and them using his children.

Still great video!!

This is so funny, I think you are putting too much thought into this.

top content. keep up the great work mate

Ya this is my sister-in-law.

Short rope.
Tall oak.
Crazy bitch?
End of...done.
Easy. Problem solved.

thank u!! all ive ever met are aweful disgusting WOMEN who need to go to JAIL for what they have done! my husband and my son BOTH have dealt with these evil people...........i dont hang out with any women anymore

Projection. Protective. Regardless enjoyed the video

so glad I found your channel. Thank you for making this information accesible for the masses. We need it!

At first I thought you were just being fair but then when you go to make a comment you have this pop up that demands that commenters be Alpha rather than beta. Which kind of proves that you are not coming from a place of non bias.

I was just going to comment based on your first remark about how you're not sure why this has come to be. I was going to give an explanation on exactly how it came to be in an unbiased neutral way, of just looking at the facts of what has occurred. Cause-and-effect as one of the few laws of the universe. So if you are unsure of how something happened you simply have to look at what caused it to happen.

So for instance, you believe in the alpha and beta false dichotomy, because it makes you feel more valid because you identify with the masculine mythos. You don't identify as a human. So what you need to do is you need to accept that you are equal to all living beings on the planet. And then you will understand what is wrong with the alpha and beta concept. It props you up higher than others. And if you were truly Prime, you would not want to be propped up in contrast to any other living being. You would want them to be with you.

My father is a narcissist and a millionaire alpha male , but he tries to be good . I watch him struggle really hard with himself

I've made a bookmark on t=2609s, where Richard starts talking about consequences. To remind myself that what I feel is true, it's a follow up of the fuck up situation, and thats not me just being weak and whiny.
The worst part was leaving her. It felt like playing a russian roulette, with a real posibility you may die and lose the last thing you have left with. You lost ability to make connections with a people, to fight for yourself, to comprehend what is going on, and the only thing you know for sure is that your mind is tricking you, and you can't trust your own thoughts. It was a leap of faith from unknown cliff in mere hope that there is something soft somewhere down there, and even if you break something on landing at least you will survive.
The only alternative was a 100% chance to fade away into non-existence.
Making such decisions lefts their own marks on psyche.

I dont think people have made the link between tech, adult content, human trafficking, PC culture, abuse, lack of good couple role models.

Johnny depps ex girlfriend probably has ptsd. Unwanted household abuses and boundary crossings force people to create protection mechanisms, with pre emtive attacks, its a unwanted invasion, like a war of constant threats, but nothing ever popping off.

'Dog bites man is news' which is why controlling behaviour by women is common but ignored!

I actually hold more character traits akin to sigma males, not alpha.
She did continually project narcissism / controlling / abuse onto me, so what Richard says here still works.
I have never felt such intense PTSD symptoms as what she did to me.
I absolutely believe it was God directed me to the 2 phrases "sigma" and "narcissist" when I pleaded with him to tell me "what is wrong with me?"
The healing journey continues.

If they're bullies, spoiled brats and grossly unfair, chances are pretty good they're a narc.

She would punish her daughter to see if I would react and when I didn’t , she would punish me by not even touching me. She wanted to break me down and make me react 😮 this is such a diamond 💎 of a video thank you !

There’re probably way more female npd considering the research displaying men as chiefly narcissistic is pretty old and came before social media / modern dating.

Head on the nail. I knew a lot of it before I saw it. Why is it legal to want somebody dead?

oprah w. view on narcism in the internet, hits the nail ;)

Females in masculine energy

They come between your Friends, Family, Children, Goals, etc... When you flee, they send their Flying Monkeys. If She is good looking, the Capabilities and Caliber of those Monkeys increases. They will do everything from suffocate you while you sleep, to Poison you, etc... If you make $100 and hour they ask why not $400 an hour. They are a curse on your life. They come from Families filled with Criminal and violent behavior. What is worse, is their evil can affect you to react in ways that are unexpected or even unacceptable to yourself. You will never be the same.

The takeaway here, is that borderline women are never worth the risk.
Never. No exceptions.

He makes me moist😂

Step 1 - Leave

I’m a 43 year old lesbian. 3 of to 5 couples I have had has narcisistic traits and one even psichopath. THANK YOU.

STILL REWATCHING. STILL GREAT. THANK YOU!!!

lovely people

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