"Spiritual Bypassing" Means Justifying Giving 10x More Than You Get

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He was in prison😮

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My mum is draining me a ton right now. Both emotionally and financially. So i feel what the woman writes. Please protect yourself ! I need to take care of my terminally ill father right now, so I cant really avoid my mum. But I do shield myself internally from her. And stopped paying for everything. I make it harder for her to be so demanding. By the way, 3 days ago, she said to my brother "do not forget: I am an angel." 😂 truly hilarious . I would love to have her self image 🤪

The level of self deception is astounding. If this guy who is a burden & a walking red flag is my only option then I’d rather be solo.

It also means attempting to use spirituality as a way of avoiding the hard, painful work is dealing with past traumas and unresolved emotional business.

Henc the saying, “The only way out is through.”

Sometimes we need HARD LOVE. Thank you!

Giiiiirl just RUN. Or, in this case, make him leave your house. I am rn separating from my avoidant ex. There is NO fixing them. It's a dead end. Focus on your wounds instead of focusing on his to steer away from your pain. You can do it! 🙏🏻🫂🙏🏻

To the letter writer, please get out of this non-relationship before it makes you sick. Life can be so good, but sometimes we have to walk away from people. I know it's hard.

Anna well spoken
An if this lady doesn't leave
Him ,shes gonna have some hardships

You can't save anyone but yourself

Girl, he’s using you!

Whenever I hear a woman say "He's a good man." It's a red flag. 🚩
If you ask what makes the man so good. They go silent. 🦗🦗🦗

"Anxious leaning secure attachment" - I don't mean to be rude but there is nothing secure here.

Jesus you are my King. I have complete trust in you. But I’m fearful because being a single mom with two children with special needs is overwhelming at times. Every month is a struggle to get by the cost of everything is rising. Lord Jesus as I struggle to pay rent, and as I struggle to buy groceries give me strength.😊

My late fiancé and I both had severe mental health issues and they led to some severe arguments that almost resulted in us breaking up several times.

However, we both had a “come to Jesus” moment and realized that if we didn’t work on ourselves and our relationship, we’d end up losing the other for good.

So we worked on it. It took a major overhaul of how we communicated to each other, establishing boundaries, and resolving conflicts without getting into vicious fights.

I’m not going to lie, it took a LOT of work in both ourselves and the relationship over the better part of a year before we were satisfied with the results. By the time he was killed in a car accident, our relationship was stronger than ever and confident that we could face life together.

But, like Anna, I’m not sure this can happen in Diane’s relationship for the simple fact that John doesn’t appear to want to work on things. Why would he? He’s got her to keep things going. It’s just a matter of time until she burns out entirely and will have nothing left to give.

My fiancé and I both made a commitment to each other and ourselves and, frankly, I think that made all the difference.

Diane, please get out. You can’t save him. Only he can do that.

So good advice

Don't like the letters

She's codependent and also just a caretaker. There's no partnership or progress. Also you can't fill love into an empty person and expect that they will change 😢

I would like some advice from anyone in the comments based off of this video.

I don't know this woman, but it appears to me that she's allowing this because she is probably very lonely and feels like she has no better options... Most people who feel like they have no better options usually do so not because of lack of trying, but because no one that they desire wants them back. The user or parasite is usually a person that the lonely person does desire.
Yet, they do not want them back. However, they are willing to at least give them attention. Which to a lonely person is like hope when you're drowning.

When it comes to limerance, Anna's solution is usually have a happy life Full of friends, fun activities, and purpose, but what do you do when you have all that and you're trying to date, yet, You still have no good options?

How do we keep ourselves from attaching to a person that doesn't want us (but strings us along), or that is clearly using us? All because we're so lonely and can't find anyone else?

She's been a great friend sticking with him during his hospitalization, then giving him a place to live and a place for his daughter. But she expects romance back and she is never going to get it from this man. She said he's loving and devoted to his daughter, but she also said she is the bridge between them, so does that mean he never acts loving and devoted and she is doing it for him?

My name could be "Diane" after hearing that letter, Anna. You are right on course with your comment. I should write my own letter to you. I'm pretty sure your advice to Diane would be similar for me. My situation started when I was a teen. My husband looked like he had it together by the number & type of his accomplishments. The first half of our marriage was spent as a military family. His performance was great in the service and public sector. Responsibilities were handled well and noteworthy goals were achieved. Employees respected him as being fair and supportive. What could go wrong? He was double minded. At home, things were drastically different. His temper would flare and his language was rough. Expectations were unrealistic. He showed great insensitivity toward me and our kids. I cut him slack because of his workload and physical injuries. I knew he was brought up with spouse abuse as a child. I heard stories from his siblings. I foolishly thought he would grow out of it. Then, I learned about CPTSD. It fit!! I had CPTSD myself from my own childhood abuse by my parents. It ended in early elementary school for me. Counseling showed that someone cared for me. He wasn't interested in it because he had too many secrets and he didn't trust people with personal information. He has become surly and more disrespectful over time toward me after leaving the workforce. It's time for me to leave... actually way past time. Thanks for identifying what I've known for a long time. He needs healing and I can't help him 😢 I have to take care of myself ♡ I'm working with your book and I'm a member in your course materials.

Thank you for the work you do ♡♡

Codependency- Dianna wants to do his work.

Great 👍 video!!! This is what people get from Alan on. Yet, you can feed it to people. “If you know, you know”. ❤❤❤😅😅😅😊😊😊😊🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻

The comments here are extraordinary!!!! ❤❤❤❤😮😮😮😮

When a person tells you who they are believe them. I pretended through a avoidant man loved me too at one time. Wasted 15 years of precious time. Get away sister.

By allowing avoidants to keep doing what they're doing- we're just enabling them. Dysfunctional patterns need attention and a lot of hard inner work and noone can do it for another. They won't change unless they want to and if you're ok with being miserable for a long time keep the insanity cycle going

He found a mother for both himself & his daughter. He isn't in good enough shape mentally for a healthy relationship. He may never be. Codependency is hell.

We can love someone deeply but that doesn’t mean we have to become enmeshed or wrapped up in other people’s drama. We must come to a point where we are able to protect ourselves wrll enough to keep our hearts safe. Some people want certain things from others but aren’t able to reciprocate. Very often, this leaves the person on the receiving end most burned out, resentful, distant, etc. A relationship is supposed to be a two way street. Anything other than that can become way too complicated and undesirable.

In another words, fully accept this man for who he is and know that it will always be this way with him. So all she has to do is decide if she is ok with living this way forever with him or not.

Wishing her well with kicking him out, it's going to be really hard but I hope she follows through

Wow that letter writer wrote that whole long letter about every single thing about this guys life.

She’s basically his mother.

Flowery language ad nauseum

My unhinged rant:
I very important man in my life had a