TMI Chit Chat - Losing My Virginity

I disagree on one thing: it CAN be a milestone in your life. If you want to make it one.

I'm sorry your church thought you that sex was a sin and that you aren't pure and that no boy and god will ever want you anymore. I think God put it in the bible to protect ourselves, from ourselves, our wants and needs. To not regret it and also have self worth and value. Plus in the bible people were getting married at like 12. I agree that if its meaningful, fun and with consent, its not a sin! Otherwise god wouldn't have created it I think.

Seriously, I needed this freaking video 5 years ago. But such a good message, much love to you Dani💖

9 years old

Me using people and them using me... i felt that and was in a sitch like that too until i realized that feeling was not it. You're really great at articulating things!

My parents made my virginity into something more important than it actually was. I have no regrets about my first time.

Great video

Wow, thank you for this. I'm older than you 25. Never had sex not even a relationship. I don't think about it much I have other things in life that interest me. I might just not be a very sexual person. Probably on the Asexual scale (whatever label doesn't matter to me). It's not something I miss or have to restrain myself I just don't have the urge to have sex with random people. And I'm learning to accept that that's just the way I am. To know that I'm more than just that and whether I had sex doesn't determine my value. I earn for companionship and trust and I hope that I'll find a person I can be with that accepts who I am. I think then the sex will just happen and I'm okay with that, no pressure. You're view pretty much sums up how I feel and glad you're sharing this message with so many young people. Sex is important but it's not everything you are so much more than it. ❤️

Why has this girl never said a single thing that I disagree with. I’m on my 5th video of hers in two days and I have agreed with EVERYWORD

This was a really good video

As a muslim virginity is something we don’t really talk about. Although waiting for marriage is something my religion practices, it is also something personal i want to uphold. I value myself too much and i feel like for myself if someone really cares about me they can wait for marriage.

I wanna sincerely be your friend!

I am 25 and still a virgin. I do believe in waiting until marriage and I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 1/2 years and he respects my decision. Thank you Dani for sharing this.

Being the oldest by 11 years, my only sister is 11 years younger than me so that’s fun, you are like the big sister I don’t have and for that, I am very thankful. Keep doing what you do Dani, we all love it!

im 21 and i'm in my first serious relationship, i think this relationship will last if not forever then a really long time. We both spoke about it and neither of us care about waiting till marriage. He genuinely cares about so if we end up having sex I would never regret it. I also never cared about sex or marriage as i am very independent, and happy with just myself. However, this person makes me so happy.

I know you probably won’t see this since it’s an older video; I was sexually assaulted / abused when I was growing up and it still affects me to this day. I struggle SO BAD with intimacy / even just people barely touching me. I have this HUGE fear that no one will want to be with me because of my issues and won’t understand how badly I was hurt and why I need so much patience.

I’m so proud of you for sharing your own story.. your helping so many others, thank you ❤️❤️

While I still do believe waiting till your officially and surely married in God’s eyes is the best way, everything else you touched on was so in line with my views

some people are just blessed with having sex. me on the other hand. i been cursed with loneliness and hate. i have never had any female physical contact. i have never had a female best friend and i’m not exaggerating. i mean 0 female friends. and i really think that’s what’s gonna prevent me from advancing anywhere. but i guess some things aren’t meant for people like no everyone is meant to live to 100.

Thanks for making this video Dani ur the best at giving the best advice ever appreciate it so muchh I pray the best for ur future Dani

This is why I’m scared to get into a relationship. Just don’t wanna get hurt

Purity culture is so damn toxic. I don’t think there is anything that makes me more angry.

First time my husband and I had sex was in the back of his car on the third date. And now we are married! 😅

You deserve more subscribers with such good content. Please continue being you! Proud of who you are and how we got to know the actual you.

Your speech are so inspiring <3 and definitely change my whole perspective. Love Dani

Dani and Katherine have always looked alike but Dani looks EXACTLY like Katherine in this video it’s so weird

You can be a doctor

What happened to you

Most of these *too afraid to ask mother*. Then me “I don’t have a mother-“

Someone recently sent me this and it helped me so I'm hoping it might help another person. "I just want to say losing your virginity is something that you give to someone consensually it's something you have to experience and share with someone else." If you were ever forced, like I was, you didn't lose anything. This act has to be consensual otherwise it's not this concept of losing your virginity. And you don't have to give that person who forced you any power over you. They didn't take anything from you because you didn't share the experience with them.

I'm about 5 years older than you and yet you've taught me some things here. You're very wise. X

Yeah in muslim you can’t do that until get married and I’m ok with that, Because Islam prohibits bad things that harm a person❤️.

I feel like we as beings have no particular choice. Unless you do not age and have disease , I do not see a way of escaping it. Defining what is normal however , is very tricky. As a girl , I have to cycle through (period etcetera) so that makes it even more mentally devastating and gruesome. But the bad things be had , you get some good out of it.

Virginity is entirely a social construct.

This is so important I wish someone told me this when I was younger, well

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i lose 21 year and i do not regret

remember: “losing your virginity” is a misnomer. when you “lose” your virginity, you are gaining access to a new experience, you don’t lose anything, it’s just your first time. 😊

I saw that the comments were six hundred and sixty six and i felt uncomfortable so i had to change it . 😀

I'm going to comment because there are 666 comments and that's weirding me out. Lol.

But seriously, I appreciate your honesty. It takes strength to be honest. I think many young women would value this perspective.

Simple is that. IF U REALLY LOVE SOMEONE. GO TO CHURCH OR MOSQUE AND MARRY. WTH TO WAIT FOR THAT.!?

I do not agree whatsoever that waiting until marriage is the 'ideal.' I think that's pretty close to the opposite of the 'ideal' actually because it shows you do not know your partner sexually whatsoever before making a commitment that is legally binding and has legal consequences. Waiting until marriage is just pushed by the church because of antiquated and barbaric beliefs.

Shes so different from her sisters

I'm 24 and still a virgin. I'm not embarrassed or ashamed. I'm staying a virgin forever. I'm not interested in losing my virginity. Not only because of pregnancy and diseases, but because it's just not something I'm interested in. People pressure me all the time to lose my virginity or talk about my virginity.

Church is so toxic regarding sex, it's incredible.
GIRLS, GUYS, LIVE YOUR LIFE!
Hiding oppression behind "choice" is so fucked up...

So needed to hear that far out

This was the talk I had always been looking for. Thankyou Dani!

I love this!! As long as it’s someone who respects you! This is definitely what I needed when I was younger! So meaningful!

Damn. You are keeping it a buck! I like it

watching this video at a time where i’ve been struggling with a bunch of questions and feelings, especially being religious, and i wanna say thank you for being so open and vulnerable. this makes me feel less alone and that means a lot to me. thank you, dani :)

I know that there are people that do get uncomfortable because there are people especially those who were traumatized and have been sexually and sexually assaulted because I know that individuals who were not able to consent made them not want to talk about that subject.