The Key To Dating An Avoidant Woman

"Share it with your partner" ... yea not sure how that would go.

My avoidant parnter that i also work with up and left the gouse when i was a way for a weekend snd noved out completely. She has had a pattern of lying and small untruths ocer our three years which i have caught her out in. Its emotionally put me on alert since cause when she behaves in a certain way i just know deception is brewing. She xame from a 35 year narcissistic marriage which ended 4 years ago. She valmes her behaviour on the suffering and the lting she had to do just to survive those years....
Tour thoughts?

Can you please do this about anxious women. It hurts that so much desire is put on avoidant women bc of their “pull away” and how that can keep men “addicted” from the intermittent reinforcement that happens sometimes. What about anxious women and understanding where they’re coming from too, and what they have to give when working on themselves and what their stories are too.

Avoidant people are extremely dangerous. They will do everything to wreck a relationship and accept no accountability or responsibility. It will blame shift everything to you and say that everything is your fault. All you have to do is look at the term avoidant. The very term avoidant describe exactly how they are. They're extremely irresponsible. If they can only feel safe on their own then that's where they need to be is on their own. Get them out of your life or you will end up an anxious depressed wreck of your former self.

I always liked the strategy, you bring hell to my life? Lying, ignoring, betraying, screaming for totally no reason except imaginary land is ruling?
I show u who is the devil ..10 years later.. Her and my soul is shattered.
It seems your approach has something in it.

just don't date them

I don’t know man. “Tell me about your day” to a DA at least in my experience implies obligation or pressure, which is what cuts deep to her.

I can relate on this strategy of creating an emotional safe zone for them to react. As when conflict happens if either is avoidant then both tend to stone wall sometimes lasting days. This is a way to show masculine side but also open for teaming together.

Tight!

As someone who has dated a DV woman, here’s my advice: don’t fucking do it. Bail on the relationship, it’s not worth it

As someone who has dated a DV woman, here’s my advice: don’t fucking do it. Bail on the relationship, it’s not worth it

As someone who has dated a DV woman, here’s my advice: don’t fucking do it. Bail on the relationship, it’s not worth it

yea how bout no

the key point as i see it, is to not do it

Women always choose Hypergamy. Even if you say, I bet you leave me for Hypergamy, they deny it up an down

Hey guys need help 🙏😭
My girlfriend disappears when we have some fight or disagreement there is a spectrum some happen for 10 min some for 1 hour based on her mood or the heat or maybe she in her head loosing the argument whenever i complain about something or just trying to address something she becomes defensive and start double complaining or over proving herself for what i say isn't what she did and if she says sorry too that's just a sorry to end the discussion when i ask what's rhe sorry for to see if she really feels it she doesn't even know or just repeats what i complaint about

I give her the space the time in these scenarios but she doesn't mostly talk till i say sorry and even after taking time she says why to start this topic again there is no use meanwhile I'm hurt want to talk
(Happens 80 to 90 percent times)

What to do ?

OMG, you just literally described my new girlfriend

Im anxion my wufe is avoidan its tough

Yes they are damaged empty bottomless pits. They never get better

Saying "avoidant" and "no they are not damaged" is totally contradictory

I think this video would be great, but Im being stonewalled so…

Bold of you to assume i have needs that involve them

But avoidants are demons! Tell me if this makes sense? Is it normal to run away from problems instead of talking it out and fixing it? Is it normal to ghost someone because you had an argument? Avoidants are cowards who can’t agree to disagree!

Aw man, this girl that I really liked, just cut the relationship off, she was just like this, I tried my best to keep my self one step behind her, b I don’t know, she told me that she was feeling stuff for her ex and shit… i think I rush the things. And make her feel a lot of pressure

I am an avoidant. This was very helpfull in selfgrowth. And, your smile, oh how delightfull. Much love xx

Here’s my advice: don’t .

If my ex didn't have other major mental health stuff going on in addition to the avoidant, I probably would've made a much stronger effort to be with her

I just do not understand how a switch can flip three months in....first three months: She said I love you first, she text the most sweet and loving things, she led the conversations about the future, practically invited herself into my life, she pushed meeting her kids, staying in her bed, sent the selfies, all that, and just left me standing there trying to keep that energy by myself.. Confusing the hell out of me.

This has to be the worst advice I've ever come across. Yes, avoidant women are broken and emotionally damaged; it's why they behave the way they do. And you can't fix them; if you try, you'll only wind up devastated.

Thank you so much!!! Your post is helping me understand with what I’m dealing with.

wish i could fix that but only she can.

Don’t. ❤

She almost completely destroyed me. And keeps coming back

Do they ever actually change ?

❤ this! I have an anxious and avoidant attachment style, which I think is also called disorganized. Super fun and certainly explains why I’m 51 and I’ve never married despite being asked three times.
I am not giving up on being able to work through stuff like this with a partner who is also willing to do their own work. Thank you for this video and the very helpful to do list.

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The key is not dating an avoidant women.

Are you ready to walk on egg shells?

Yes we are damaged and yes we are dangerous. The first step is admitting you have a problem...

What do i do when, i am not even dating that woman?

Savior complex…probably a big check on my part. Taking up too much emotional space….check. Crap.

Run! I tried for 7 years, had some fun but also wasted so much time on an avoidant. They dont really change, they will suck your energy dry. Never will be balanced or healthy.

This is gold my man!

Hey Connor, thanks for this video it’s really insightful. I’ll be doing the worth guide shortly.

I have a question on how to move forward with an avoidant woman I started dating. I started to notice her pull away and tried to have a conversation about it but me asking seemed to have create an even wider gap. It’s been 10 days since I’ve heard from her. She said she’d be away for about a week and half and I decided to not reply and give her space but I saw that she was back recently on social media, it’s painful but I keep reminding myself that’s her defense mechanism. In between the time she’s been away I’ve done some reflecting and realized some of my anxious behavior recently and in past relationships and since then have been taking steps to heal. That said I really like this girl and I want to see if we can move forward but I’m not sure what to do. Do I wait for her to reach out or do I send a text letting her know I’m not mad or upset with her and she can talk to me when she’s ready?

Open to hearing how other guys dealt with similar situations with their avoidant partners.

great video

Fantastic video!!

If you take it as a game and just stick to the rules it's really really easy, the problem is you won't want to do that after 10 years, you won't wanna manahe their fear.

The key is not to date one

They are Broken.