Karen Calls Me Selfish For Not Having Kids... Big Mistake! - Reddit Stories

Why is it anyone's business some people want to remain child free?

Never go to reddit for relationship advice.

They will always take the most extreme take no matter what.

Girls night out story: oh blah blah blah! Swap the genders and Reddit would be singing a different tune. What exactly did OP even do?! Absolutely nothing. Shame on every commenter saying YTA.
Your GF treated you more like a chaperone than a BF, ignored her friends pointing out your loneliness, threw a pitty party in the bathroom, and she is acting like the victim?! Why are you with this woman?!

How isnot selfishnto not have kids of you dont want to? It's only selfish to have kids for the wrong reasons.

Only reddit can convince themself that not wanting to sit alone while your partner is ignoring you makes you a loser.
😂

Kid got what she wanted. Op wins parenting. And of course the mom wants to bitch about it.

The bar story only had me think what’s this bullshit about him needing to stay for support? It’s a girls night only thing he should be there for if he is that bored is dd. She has more then enough support with her friends if they are decent worthwhile people in the first place.
The bedtime story solution was genius though great way to teach actions have consequences

Nta Just doesn't leave

Those are very insensitive comments who is to say that op and his wife or next couple she makes those comments to are infertile

Nta So many red flags a Run

Exactly everyone's on crazy pills You need to lose him

For 3 generations in my family the same name was passed down, this was my Grandfather’s name, but not my great grandfather’s whose name wasn’t passed down to his 4 sons. My father carried my grandfather’s name and my older brother did as well. It ended with my brother as he had no son. Now my kid brother has started a new naming tradition with his son. It doesn’t matter to me like my wife taking my last name. She didn’t and I never pushed it, too much paperwork. My younger sister has been married 4 times (2 divorces and widowed once) she has changed her name 4 times and that’s a mess.

The story with the kid, Technically the wife is right. It was manipulative to let the girl stay up to teach her a lesson. However in this case that was the whole point. She learned that getting a good nights sleep is important so that she can have the energy she needs to do stuff the next day. Hopefully this will be a lesson that sticks with her for awhile.

Baby name story, let's not take relationship advice from a group of people who don't know what monogamy is, and thinks they're the epitome of normal.

On the girl's night out? NTA. All those commenters are. It's so obvious that they are mean girls just like the girlfriend and her friends. If the gender roles were reversed, everyone would be on her side and calling op a jerk. Such hypocrisy of some people. So sad.

Story 1-The brother's girlfriend complaining how being child free is selfish is gonna say that to the wrong person and rewlly hurt someone at some point. Not everyone who is childfree is childfree by choice. Some just cannot have kids. And that can be a SUPER sensitive subject in those cases. As for those who are childfree by choice, it's not anyone's business but the couple's, so OP has every right to not invite the lady and shut her down hard

Edit due to mislabling the GF

She brings him out with her because she needs him there and doesn’t make an effort to include him
He can socialize yes but these are her friends and coworkers it’s her job to introduce him and include him
If she wasn’t going to include him or even speak to him why ask him to come

Op NTJ: If she couldn’t be there for you with her friends then I would have left too. Bs with everyone saying 😅that you are wrong for going to do your own thing. She was having fun, you weren’t. You were right.

S1 Mr Redder and bbq hahahaha!!!! ALOT of people ARE INDEED choosing NOT to have children, concentrating on themselves, their pets. Get over it. It's your home, No means No. Cancel these ridiculous family gatherings and plan yall's own traditions, She should have been confronted a LONG TIME AGO.

S2 WHY are they together???? He's a FOOL for even considering marriage and kids

S3 WHY didn't you put them out immediately as soon as it was brought up?? You ARE allowed to place boundaries.

S4 Bwahahahaha!!!!

S5 You have every right to be upset.

S6 You proved your point and you aren't in the wrong, 7 year olds require alot of sleep, she should be going to bed way before 10.

S7 Reminds me of a song from Dr Hook When you're in love with a beautiful woman. She got everything she deserves. And he needs to get fixed.

I don’t know what the obsession is with people telling other people that they should have children. If you made that choice for yourself, that’s fine but what makes you think that you should have any input and whether another couple has children. And people that don’t have kids that selfish when people have kids for very selfish reasons, including I just want to and I need somebody to take care of me when I get old. People are literally out there having children just so they have an indentured servant when they get older telling other people who choose not to have kids that they’re being selfish. Because it’s so selfish to not tax that we have here on earth, even more by bringing in additional people into a world and economy that is terrible they were practically in apocalyptic state There are no opportunities for young adults today with master degrees but sure let’s just bring more people here to suffer and deal with all we deal with and worse bc I wanna. Or bc I need someone to take care of me when I’m old and I don’t want to Be irresponsible and save up money and give a good retirement for myself. I want somebody to be guilty into providing that for me simply because I gave birth to them so they owe me.

To the boyfriend who ruined his girlfriends night .. What a complete yump. A whiner .. Bloody hell..

Gotta love reddits bias and i dont even see why, you don't bring someone who isent going to enjoy a party to the party, im sure both of them have other things they'd rather do alone, you don't need to be joined at the hip 24/7, also all the assuming the replies are doing just because of his gender makes me wonder why anyone even goes to reddit for dating advice, everyone handles things diffrently, the world would be a very boring place if everyone thought the same.

Ugh to the comment about traveling to find submissive woman who don’t have any personality of thier own and have been indoctrinated since childhood to think that they’re only job in life is to serve and that should get joy from that. Like there’s one thing saying find somebody you’re compatible with and then it’s another thing to say find someone who’s been brainwashed since they were a small child into thinking that there were a servant for a man and marry those woman.

His girlfriend is doing nothing wrong that she went to a bar. Maybe it was a friend’s birthday or something and the friend wanted to go to the bar when your friends with people or even family members sometimes you let other people pick the activity for the evening you don’t always get to do what you want, just for the fact that this girl was in a bar once that’s what she likes to do every day of the week. This might be the first time that she’s been in a bar in two years.

And everybody’s laugh path is not the same just because you’re happy in a relationship where you stay home in the evenings and watch television all the time doesn’t mean that every couple in the world should do what you do and be happy with it. Some married couples live where they travel to country every month and they’re happy with that. And you know what it doesn’t bother me because I’m happy with my situation and I could care less what everybody else is doing out there because it doesn’t affect me at all. If you decide to go to Barr, if you decide you wanna stay and watch Hallmark movie that’s fine with me too. You’re not bothering me no matter what you pick so why when it’s on the other side What other people choose to do. Pretty much Along the same lines as everybody else being invested in whether a couple is going to have kids or not, why do you care? Does that affect you or your kids or your life at all? Why would you spend your time trying to convince people that the right path to have children even if they don’t want children and for all you know, they may not be able to have children and maybe they even experience a couple losses already and you’re the a hole harassing them on why they don’t have kids during a birthday dinner.

If your such a tool that you need to go to another country to find a woman who can tolerate you and it’s not even that she tolerates you she probably just pretends while peeing in your coffee in the morning but where she’s from it’s a big step up to marry a wealthy westerner - maybe she even gets citizenship and likely leaves as soon as she’s served her sentence sort to speak.

Nah I think that lesson was brilliantly set up, teaching your daughter, the importance of sleep and going to bed at the right time because you have things to do in the morning and during the day that you can’t simply avoid because you decided not to go to bed until really late. This is actually a really great lesson to learn early because most of us don’t even get that opportunity until after the time that we’ve turned 18 So now we have jobs or we’re in college classes and we’re missing them because we failed to go to bed in time. She will always remember how she felt that day and will voluntarily go to bed at a reasonable time. I think it was a perfectly orchestrated lesson.

The bar story: dude there is a complefe difference between your kid and bing out as a thrid wheel on a girls night. he should have spoken up. Told her to stay. He did not have to stay to "support" her after she got comfortable and was ok.

"Just being honest" is not a valid defense for being rude.

We need an episode dedicated to bbq drama.

Second story: He shouldn't have a say in whether he hyphenates her last name when they marry. And she absolutely should get a vote in the kids' names.

Are those women serious that went in on op in the "girls" night out story😒Op makes sure his gf doesnt feel left out when out with his friends, but God forbid he wants to feel included with her hers!? The gf and her friends are terrible and they'll break up if the gf dont wake up soon.

OP can find quite a few women in America who don’t go to bars and clubs. I am one of them and my husband hates them too

I think that's staying up late thing was a great lesson for the kid. Practical lessons are really the best. She got to experience the consequences of not getting sufficient rest, especially at her age when they go through so much energy, and now she has experienced exactly the consequences her mother told her she would. The father may object but better not do it in front of the child. Parents should keep a united front. But if he disagrees and he's just as ignorant as his daughter was before she stayed up all night. You can tell a kid that the fire is hot all you want but until they touch something and find out what that really means in a visceral sense they really don't truly understand the consequences. Better for them to burn themselves on a hot rock than actually in the fire themselves.

On the story about his daughter who didn't want to go to bed, I had the same thing happen with my 3 kids all at once. I was tired of arguing, so I gave them permission to stay up all night if they wanted...with one condition. They had to stand in one spot, not play with any toys or do anything at all. Just stand there. They were wanting to go to bed in less than 15 minutes. 😊

Take the last name or gtfo.

Girls Night Story: Oh my godd this is one of the most CLEAR CUT reddit hypocrisy stories i have ever read. If Op went out on a boys night and ignored his gf all night; then left her alone while he went out with his friends and then tried to play the victim when called out, the collective anal clench reddit would havr would be comparable to a neutron star.
Op is SOOOOO NTA and the hypocrisy is soooo strong

night out story: all the YTA commenters are for sure women with sour downstairs and are projecting so hard its sickening(wouldnt suprise me if most of them are now part of the 4B movement and are posting on modern women pages)

Wow Keyboard Warriors Must lead a Depressive life living in moms Basement scrolling Reddit just being Miserable with their Comments. Did you Not just read the same story as the rest of us. But you can have your Opinion. But Opinions are like A-Holes everyone has one some just Spew more Crap then Others

Wake up and smell the coffee OP, Kim probably has a major crush on your BF. Lee is blind to Kim's antics, trying to separate OP and Lee by trying to get him to work at a new location hours away. Kim put his name for a new branch not once but twice behind his back. She wanted to get with Lee and he and OP weren't having it, hope you do get a new job without Kim as your supervisor

Girls night out story: OP makes sure his GF is included in HIS outings, but she ignored him on HER outing. All anyone did was make jokes about how "LOST he looked." The GF and her friends suck and if OP is smart, he'll break it off with her. She OBVIOUSLY doesn't give a shi+ about him or his comfort.
His GF treated OP more like a chaperone than a BF. She even IGNORED her friends pointing out his loneliness, THEN threw a pity party in the bathroom, and acting like the victim?! If she couldn’t be there for you with her friends then I would have left too. NTAH