The Narcissist's Final Discard: 5 Things You Need To Know

My ex would never tell the truth although I gave him plenty of opportunities to be honest and his actions always didn’t match what he was saying.Crazy I was with him for a year

Great vid!I really enjoyed watching! My ex has done some stupid things but she wouldnt be so stupid as to try and contact me again !

She kept her facade going for 7 months only to confess that she was really never there with me and had been talking to someone, and she is pregnant by him. There was no remorse nor apologized. Then a week later she called acting as tho everything is normal... delulu delulu delulu

The discard and disrespect is wild. You have to stay away and you CANNOT allow them to come back in any way. The lying and manipulation is too much and will hurt you in horrible ways that last for a long time. Hope you guys get better soon.

I’m in the middle of a horrible discard with the I never knew that man and all the cruelty and feelings of he never loved me… but he refuses to leave and I can’t- 33 years! I have no friends left, my family is alienated and besides everyone thinks he’s a saint because he’s EXTREMELY covert. I have no money and he told me this morning, with an evil smirk, that I can’t make it without him. I lost it and fed him my frustration and anger. I am broke, devastated, physically sick and mentally ill because of this relationship 💔❤️‍🩹❤️

There is a lot of quality, informative, and educational content on this platform. This is cringy. Find a voice that fits you I guess.

She threatened to leave me while I was on the gurney going into surgery! I told her to leave! Talk about hints I’ve should’ve seen early on!! Wow

This happened to me several years ago by siblings...it has bothered me for awhile because I didn't know wth I had done to be isolated...recently one came back around but it was just to see if I had lost weight be cause that is the thing they wanted for me to be "included"..now she can report to the other sibling what she found..so hurtful..and unbelievable

Should we block their family too?

I went through two narc relations and both made me go through a smear campaign
One of them tried to contact with me again twice and the other one hasn't (yet?)

Considering they can even discard their flying monkeys, who knows?

Hold on Christina, I was Discarded, Smeared, and then my ex-wife told her brother months later that she still loved me and was praying to God for us. Then she decided not to go a 2nd round and then texted me that she will pray for me and will care for me. I got really upset and quit talking to her for almost 3 months. When I reached out to her in mid July of 2024, she never responded. So will she Hoover me later when her New Supply falls apart?
Who knows....
She still hasn't changed her last name and still carries my last name and it's almost a Year Later, and she won't block me!!!

He stole money from me, when I asked him about it with proofs he said he didn't know me and to not text him again "whoever you are don't text me again." it's been two weeks on no contact. I am so sad and just feel broken.

There are many comments that look like they could be from the actual narcissist. Like the one she just read.. many narcissists will provoke and do horrible things THEN RECORD YOU, the real "victim" freaking out in REACTIONARY "abuse".. if that person had a restraining order and was the one playing the recordings.. he is most likely doing this. Posting sob stories when they are the actual narc. Playing the recordings to threaten his victim that he has manipulated the entire narrative. Why didn't HE just call the police if she was randomly freaking out on him in the moment? Because he wanted to record it to show friends and family and court most likely. threaten her and hold it over her head. I have been the recipient of that well-known tactic. No one ever asked "why" would she be so upset? What lead up to it? And NO ONE came to ask if I was ok. Just remember to be safe and careful if your ex or the narc knows your screen names ..they can and do find sick and demented ways of seeing your posts! - narc survivor- after being left for dead by my ex husband narc? Sociopath? just pure evil demon in my book. please! Your number one priority is your (and children if applicable) safety! Get out. Call a domestic violence number .call 911..they can help you make a plan and get out safely.

It’s been 6 weeks I’ve been discarded so so many times but this feels different I haven’t blocked him because I really feel this is the final discard

The final discard happens when they KNOW that you have figured them out. You won't hear from the narc again.

Mine came back after he had been silent for about 6 months. He asked if we could leave the past behind and simply be friends. I told him that I would be okay with that. Things were fine......he would phone me and we would chat and laugh together and it seemed like MAYBE we really could be friends, even if there was no way we could ever live together again. And then the mask slipped, and the monster re-appeared. A few days ago he tried to make me say that I was the abusive one in our 10 year relationship, while HE was the one that was peaceful and tried to make it work. I told him NO WAY was I going to allow him to convince me that I was the abusive one. He asked me to give some examples of his abuse, and when I did he began to shout........I cut the call off. I feel like such a fool, because I allowed him back in to my life and I should have known better.

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That man discarded me but still lived in my house! I saw text msgs with him slandering my name to women and they believed him! His flying monkeys enable him. I can’t ever forgive him. He treat me like ish for months before i kicked him out.

How do I know if I'm not the narcissist?

Trying to leave after cheating and he used self harm to threaten me and keep me around... It worked too well til it completely traumatized me.

And he uses a different traumas I've experienced to keep me down. Constantly engaging my trauma knowing how to manipulate it.

It was her time to give lunch. We had problems and i ask'ed her if we had a relationship or not. She said that she just as well could save money for my lunch and breake up and so she did.....walked away like we had never been together 😄
It's was just one of 14 break-ups.....so crazy 😄

Omg my ex boyfriend is ssly the most cruel narcissist I’ve ever seen I can’t even go to the supermarket for 20mins without carrying my phone cause he thinks he will die any moment and I won’t be available to him also I have to send snaps of what I am doing all the time should not talk to anyone about the relationship while he goes around having girl besties every new season and I can’t wear what I want to but calls other girls hot when they are wearing the same like the double standards narcs have and blame u as a toxic person omg also he slapped me in front of friend cause I didn’t call him after a fight instead talked to my friend who is a girl too (spoiler alert:he is not in death bed or is sick he is completely fine but just wants to say anything to control me )he has gone days without talking to me but I can’t choose 20 mins of space just to bring vegetables from the market also he threatened me to tell my parents about me on how I’m a cheater and manipulated him hurt but I’m no longer scared of him it’s just his way to control me and I’m done with him

I'm going through the discard phase now. From the beginning she's used her directness to stay ahead in the relationship. If I disagreed with anything - like moving to LA in 2024, she’d insult me and put me down. Then to love bomb me through sex or intimacy just to discard me again. She'd even say that she can't remember anything but negative moments in our relationship but then when I told her that I can remember what I've gotten out of this relationship - she said that's not fair. Her final words and actions was to hang up on me and then tell me while doing so, this is why you can't be with me. She's constantly dragging her family into our business and then invite me to come around them. She uses CPTSD as an excuse to continue her behavior but never seek out treatment. She offered couples therapy but never decided to go because she felt like it was too much work. If I ever sent her messages explaining my feelings she’ll stall to avoid responsibility just to pop back up. She doesn't apologize. She says I hear you. She love bombed me and asked me to be open with her just to weaponize my past against me. Its just really frustrating when you realize the person you fell in love with never existed.

My ex narc, begged me for months to give him another chance because he found God and made a promise that he would never cheat or deceive me again. I traveled 4 hours to see him. We had a great week together and only a day after I returned home, he tried hooking up with an old girlfriend. When I brought it to his attention, he discarded me again. They will never stop being who they are. It left me devastated and he didn't care.

He made thinly veiled remarks to off me. I think he’s done.

I had a friend text me, pick up the phone or I'll never talk to you again. I promptly blocked her number. It's been two years. I'm done.

@ common ego:
Does the npd experience the trauma bond as well??

True!

My wife said BYE I SAID DONE as in ONE AND DONE

They dont give closure cause they're coming back. Its a horrible cycle.

My narccissist discarded me like I was lying about having a relationship with him to his new supply when I found about their relationship 😂 he acted like we broke up a year before and she was the only relationship he had now but I showed all the chats it was ditto

I was discarded in 2019, then three years later he came back. I should have stuck woth my first answer. Now 2 1/2 years later he discarded me again. I told him not to ever come back. I mean it this time.

There's a real, simple reason why you will never have closure with a narcissist.

There was never a relationship to begin !

All one-sided.

Therefore, there is
nothing for that person to close.

If you want to have closure with the narcissist, once you realize that's what they really are especially covert, that's all the closure you need.

Instead of I need to close my relationship with my narcinestec girlfriend, just her place, the word narcissist with totally insane. How do you have closure with the totally insane person? How do you reason with a totally insane person?

Yeah say bye bye.

But remember, these are co dependent relationships, they're giving you something you need too.. 😊

Dating- They saw what I wanted and became that for months.

Year 1- Knew what my boundaries were but wallked over them with excuses as to why. It made me make excuses for them even.

Year 3/4- I tried to be the best me. I encouraged growth by saying I'm here for you. Reminding them to take their dreams into their own hands. And got told I was controling and making them want their dreams so I gave up inspiring growth.

Year 6 (Start)- Felt like an 1800s house wife. I didnt have a right to have feelings. I didn't have the right to share them. But they could have feelings about how you aren't doing this enough or your doing this wrong or I can't share my feelings with you because your going to act this way....(which is this set in stone way that feels comepletely different from how you feel you are and you just feel hurt that they are seeing you like this and confused on why they can't morph this imagine into who you really are)

Year 6 (Mid) You decided your sick of feeling inequal in the relationship. Your sick of walking on egg shells. You bring it up to them and they tell you they feel the same way and that your causing them to feel that way. That its your fault. They say they need space.

Year 6 (Current)- They say they want a divorce. They say it in such a coward and unthoughtful way. Your in shock and need/want to understand. They give you reasons that dont make sense. They give you reasons that could be worked on IF you were in a equal relationship. They get mad at you for asking questions and trying to understand. They show their coldness. They feel no epithy for throwing the years you spent with away for nothing. They don't care. And you realize this is how they are now (Not who you fell in love with) and that this them may certainly be the real them. You look at your broken world and realize all you gave to them you feel that hurt. You realize you have decisions; you can do what is best for you. You don't need them or need to please them. They've hurt you without remorse and without acknowledging their part. Your better then this and better then the lies they are feeding you. You deserve so much more. Old aspects of yourself as starting to resurface and your feeling happy but stressed about your situation.

I don't know if I was/am in a narcissistic relationshop but thanks to videos like this I'm able to realize I deserve more from someone who "loves" me. The happiest part of my marriage was the months prior to it. The months I was sky high on him treating me exactly how I wanted Mr. Perfect to treat me. Maybe that should of been a clue it was too perfect to be real.

They always come back. I’ve had one show up after 10 years saying he’s a changed man & trying to convince me to take him back. I asked if he’s in a relationship. He replied “well she think we in a relationship but we’re not.” Which told me all I need to know. He’s the same person.

Another one tried to hoover me after 2 years.

If they have a way to get in touch with you they will.

She has my little girl! I have been sued 3 times so she my ex MIL could get my little girl. My ex is a dumb drug addict that’s her prop on stage for court. He doesn’t and can’t care for my kids. Twelve years my daughter is nine! How do I prevail over her school with flying monkeys and DSS connections. I’ve been there done that have the t shirt. God it’s like I won’t get any normal raising my child. My other two kids are little narcs I hate to say but they are dad taught them. I catch her in real time with proof of every thing she does and says. My son just came at me with an accusation that I pressured speech in an overly aggressive way to my nine year olds teacher at the parent meeting. I always record! I played the recording for him so he’d believe me. This still doesn’t even give second thought they are the bullies and corrupt liars. I’m alone here but I’m all their problems in life. I don’t want to leave my baby girl.

There was never a beginning asshole

I presently live with a
narcissist. Within the past year this individual has has been an infidel several times, and actually caught partaking right in the act of sex. They totally denied it. Can you believe it!? Everything you have been discussing here is right on the target. Wow what a head trip these people are.

I've been discarded 3 or 4 times now, ea. Time uts false and she seeks to argue bringing up the extra smoke screen to turn the tables on me. Only to end up agreeing that "I" need to try harder so I fon't cause this again or else.😂ohya

More issues come after a discard, they walk around with a trail of hell.

grab your stuff, pick up whatever you can... and....Runnnnnnnnnn....

What if I was just a side supply? He lied to me over a year about having a gf. I found out he would take her on shopping sprees get her anything she wanted. I lost it. I was so mad. He wouldn't even buy me dinner. Used us working together as an excuse for why we couldn't do that, but it was ok to hook up. When I found out I messaged the gf, basically said some nasty stuff about him. She showed him and he knew it was me. I could tell I hurt him by the way he looked at me. He stopped speaking to me months went by. We finally did speak and I denied the messages. He broke up with his gf, found a new one and within 2 weeks he proposed. Some stuff went down. A bunch of women messaged her including me to warn her. they broke it off for a couple weeks and are now back together. Meanwhile, he was stalking my snapchap the whole time, watching my socials, and I guess he told everyone he is trying to be good now. He's a known cheater, and now he says he's not gonna look at other women anymore. He unfriended me from snapchat and blocked me on both of my facebooks. What do you think? Would he come back? Or do you think I pissed him off for good? I know he plans on marrying this one, but...😒

Mine decided to cheat lie and say none of it was his fault.

"It doesn't matter what you would have done, they would've got bored anyway."
😔 Thank you

I got discarded during the 3rd week of dating. She had already found a new supply and my mistake was questioning the suspicious things she posted on whatsapp status.
She didn't want to tell me because she wanted to use me financially but I guess I don't deserve to voice out any discomfort I may feel. She quickly devalued and discarded in 2 days.
Currently on 19 days of no contact.

Maybe a strange question, but when they are being cruel and love bombing at the same time during the discard... Anyone experienced that?! Felt to me like keeping the foot in the door, saying some really nice compliments too... I wonder?! It was beyond strange..... 😅

I wonder if mine will come back around. She never smeared me, but did get her immediate family to drop me, so who knows what she said to them.

I did start to see her for what she was and told her 2x that she was acting like a narcissist. I didn't know she was one, just that she was acting like one.

I'm thinking she won't but wonder if she will when her son turns 18 in a couple years and leaves for college. He is her supply now.

Great great video. SO many key points here. “If you have been thru more than one discard, the next discard is even more cruel. “ These didn’t start happening to me til year 5.
Only one point that many therapists mention but is NOT always the case. The point that they awaken childhood wounds. I didn’t have childhood wounds. Had a secure family environment, unconditional love, and was never alone in the house. I never felt afraid or lonely.
I have a name to describe what our narc did to us, EMOTIONAL RAPE.
That term which I came up with describes it in a way that really describes the deep core of what happened. You were raped, emotionally. It’s not just a break up. It’s a rape.
Thank you Christina. Love the environment you set up behind you for your videos. Very soothing.

Wow the wounds were always there