Cracking the code on codependency

I didn't shut up and do what I was told . All hell broke loose. I still suffer from the same consequences as an adult. It's so hard. I need the connection, love relationship of my parents siblings.... I can't abandon myself.

So true ! 👌

It's sad but at the same time i'm grateful for be a servant "el que no vive para servir no sirve para vivir"

Yes - we were trained in early childhood- to be obedient & follow instructions.

Yes, exactly what it is. That need to fix and save people but also things

Npds brainwash you into codependency through various forms of manipulation. I like the master slave analogy. Excellent, Richie! 🌺

Very interesting what you say.

It’s because we are looking for Jesus… I will be a slave for Jesus until I die, gladly. It all makes sense now. He is the ultimate master. I am so grateful.

Where can we watch the full video please Richard? I’ve just watched Professor Sam Vaknin debunking the myths from the self-help industry and he says that we cannot change. I think it’s important to have things said so succinctly.

We have a slave mentality.We are looking for masters. And we can’t really change.

It’s important to know. thank you.

Best definition ever ❤

I mean for me it’s not like master slave relationship but I definitely have codependency issues lol to my mom like fr😂 like I can’t go without her for more than like a day and as a kid I could never have a sleepover or anything

The exact opposite happened. Because of my parents domination over me. I worked my ass off as not to have a "Boss" controlling my life....

codependency is trained fawn responding… wow, never heard it put so succinctly before but it totally makes sense.

This is such a dumb take. When your parents tell you to do as you are told it's a trust hierarchy not a master slave relationship. Chances are if you listened to your parents you're more likely to develop healthy relationships and understand how to set and respect boundaries

I'm usually on the fence with your videos, but there's something very interesting about this take (: ...

i guess i have a slave mentality

My idiot self thinking he’s saying code-dependency. Not co-dependency. 🤦‍♂️

Or…Paremts May have overridden their child’s “voice”…their ability to ever “be right”…or have a view opposite to the r (narcissistic) parent. Which is basically the same as saying “shut up and do as you’re told.”

M8 wtf are you talking abt

Stockholm syndrome to a tee!

Whats the black cloud above your head? Its really weird....

This guy is a meandering self-help joke, spouting opinions like they’re rules.

I have an identical twin, we grew up with sadistic monsters as parents. We both became extremely codependent. 26 years of therapy has really helped me and aloud a healthier marriage. My husband has had to be very patient with but we’ve now been together for 21 years. My sister refuses therapy and insists she doesn’t need it. It’s sad but I really see how far I’ve come when I interact with her. Her husband is cruel and patronizing toward her with every word and she won’t even leave when we offered to pay her way. So now, I just try to be an outlet for her. It’s…it’s triggering to see her kids there.

Well this is why I won't stop working. Says who? "Slave and Master?" You all can really post crap. Who else raised you ? No wonder some people are so rude

WOW that explains why I have those feelings and thoughts . I hate that.

Well, I've established my cat to be my master a long time ago. It's been good, I've been treated well by him.

Co-dependancy? Wtf is code dependant

Crazy to hear it this way. But you are right..the thing that attracted me to him was a lot of the same upbringing.

WOW Yes I do realize this as I am watching this .Ivevbeen feeling this way likexa maid do for a man woman

Yes…the same but inverse responses. Mirror images.

I gave my parents hell with how stubborn I was that I was different. Talk about fight or flight since childhood. Battling to be yourself constantly is what I have corrected and BROKEN the cycle as I am a parent now. But I’m my NPD relationship I started giving in and allowing myself to be ruled over do to financial abuse as he made way more than me and would use that over our kiddo and me. Doing so much better now that we’ve left 🙌🏻 healing, but better 💗

This is difficult to hear, causing a trigger response where I am sick inside..'Want to burst into tears, as well. The pain of not mattering is horrific.

Please consider another venue as being appropriate for "Super Thanks". I mean this to be a constructive comment, it feels wrong to do this. Maybe there is another way?

So true...

Idk. When we were raising our kids they knew they had to obey. Meh

slave seeking nothing, i would say yea yea i will do it and do my way , constantly doing opposite

You are the shit !!! These videos are golden ...

This is me. Ha (not really funny, but…)

So true 😢

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Crazy ass hell

Is there a full video on this topic I need to rewire my brain

I've never heard someone state this so accurately. My MIL lost her husband (he was a full blown narcissist) who literally treated her like a human slave. When he died, I thought she would finally be free. Instead, she went to her oldest daughter (who is also a narcissist) and allows her to FULLY control her life. My MIL is living on someone's couch, and she will give my SIL money because she refuses to get a job. The whole dynamic is sick. It's like my MIL falls apart unless she has someone controlling her life and telling her what to do.

Wow, this is so eye opening! My parents were very strict, both mentally and physically! Plus they felt girls were a worthless commodity!

Nice haircut!!!

The occult secret societies run this realm and the military complex. The military programming is occultism. Just like they program us with TV, movies, music. Awakened in 2020, all praise to Yahuah! HalleluYAH!

My father was Special Forces. My entire childhood was a massive psyop. Safety is an illusion. Fight to Be Free.

Codependency is a lie that says you have a mutual relationship with someone. But it’s really parasitic because they are narcissists.

Npd are Codependant though

My late husband was SAS and they make excellent partners.I think they get training in how to think how the other party will react to them because his temperament was, if it's going to keep the peace give in, it's only money and if it's not going to go down well be somewhere else, like on a course.Absence makes the heart grow fonder.